I don't mean as in, be in an official relationship with more than one girl, I mean go one dates/kiss several different girls at once? In the past I used to be very traditional, but I realized a lot of Americans are not like this. I was told that when in the preliminary stages of a relationship, it is normal and acceptable that a woman "try" her options, so is the same true for men?
I am officially single, and committed to no one, but somehow I feel what I am doing is wrong. Is it? Or is it okay to go on dates with various girls and "test drive" so to speak? I've kissed all of them, but in all fairness, I've always heard of girls doing this as well. So, what is the general consensus? Please share your thoughts, but be respectful.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with this as long as all of the girls are fully aware that they are one of many girls you are romantically pursuing.
Here's the thing; many people want to preach about this "I'm single; I can do what I want. I can date who I want. I don't owe an explanation to anyone" yet they don't want t be so bold, open, and honest about their philosphies with the actual people in question. Why? Because they know it looks bad. They know it makes them look like an a**hole. So they figure it's okay to adopt that attitude when it comes to dating, but they don't want the multiple people they're dating to realize that's the attitude they have. It may also be because they realize that the second they let the person know how they really feel is the second they are subjected to be demoted in terms of romantice future. 9/10 times, if you subliminally or outright tell someone that you're seeing other people; it makes them feel disposable and they automatically try not to get attached because the situation looks unreliable.
Morally, I think it's wrong; it's selfish and self-centered for someone to do that. Not only that, but it's hard to get to know them all at the same time.6