It seems that if anyone states they have a preference about something, it gets shot down and a lot of hate.
For example, if a woman says she has a preference on the height of a guy, or the degree of fitness he's at, or how big his penis is, she gets a lot of hate.
In addition, don't worry guys, I'm not leaving you out, if a guy says he has a preference on the size of breast a girl has, or her hair color, or how fit she is, or the size of her jeans, he too gets a lot of hate.
When did it not become okay for someone to have preferences for the person they'd like to date?
I don't know about you, but I have a preference in the guy I look for to date, and I'm sure all of you have at least some criteria, so why is that such a bad thing? Are people so unsure of themselves that they need to freak out at the person who voices their preferences?
What do you all think?
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People who do not meet the preferences of another will always disagree with them. Though, with the examples you've given:
Height - It's understandable for a girl to want a guy to be taller than her but to issue is moreso concerned with girls ONLY finding men of certain heights attractive. We're not living in caves, height does not equal protection. This is also cannot be changed by the guy which is going to cause negative reactions toward girls who prefer it.
Penis size - Penises aren't designed to please women, for one. They're meant to impregnate them. It's understandable to want a penis that is AVERAGE though most girls say they want 8+ inches in length and girth when the sad truth is, about 1% of guys actually have penises that size. This also cannot be changed by the guy (despite what certain pharmaceutical companies claim)
The same goes for guys having preferences on girls:
Boob size - You'll find that at least 50% of males actually aren't too concerned with breast size and are more concerned with their aesthetics. Shape, nipple proportion and symmetry are more important than size for these 50%. Though it's going to be frowned upon to prefer certain sizes because, similar to height, this cannot be changed by the girl (without surgery).
As for the others you've mentioned. I have yet to see hair color as an issue and physical fitness is a trait that both males and females desire.
I think it all boils down to preferences that are realistic or can be changed. The most unrealistic and the traits that cannot be changed will always receive criticism so, if you're going to have such preferences, you should not only expect negative opinions but accept them. No one likes to feel like the majority of the opposite gender are ruling them out because of traits that should have little importance (or they feel should have little importance) or that are out of their control.