I dated this guy who was only willing to date girls he thought he could marry. After a month and a half he dumped me because he said he really liked me, and he liked a lot about me, but that I wasn't the one. He said we couldn't be friends either. He also said he still likes hanging out and he still finds me very attractive, but that he doesn't want to invest emotionally in someone he isn't planning to marry.
Is that typical for most 22 year old guys? What's wrong with dating just to date? He was super opposed to this idea because he wants to settle down with someone ASAP. I almost suggested we just be friends with benefits... but I feel like he won't go for that. Why does he have to be so serious? Are most guys like that?
If you have fun with someone, you like them and you find them attractive, why not just be with them til someone else comes into the picture? I have no problem with that. Currently, we aren't even speaking and he wants nothing to do with me. I think it's sad that we can't be friends even. This means I can't be friends with his friends anymore either... that's sad. :/
- People should date for fun if it makes them happyVote A
- People should only date people they can see themselves marryingVote B
- OtherVote C
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It's not one or the other. This guy sounds like he doesn't want to play games. I can understand where he's coming from, but have friends that definitely like to date just for fun. A guy like him sounds like he wouldn't cheat on you and if he wanted to see another girl, he would break up with you first to not hurt you as badly.
From what it sounds like to me, tell me if I'm wrong, is that you think it's fine to date someone that you like until you meet someone else, start dating them and like them more. That's cool, the only problem is how do you meet someone else that you like dating more while you're still dating the other guy without cheating on him? Maybe cheating is completely OK with you, not sure.
You guys are in 2 different spots in life, he wants a serious relationship at 22, which isn't normal, but IS admirable, and you just want to date guys, have fun with them until some other hot guy gets your attention.0