A guy I have known for a year decided to stay over from Sunday Night till Tuesday Morning.
A roommate of mine offered him a ride back to campus , but he insisted on staying. He slept on the couch that night and he stayed the next day..
we talked for 16 hours straight just laying down in my bed doing nothing. we did kiss, and cuddle but we didn't have sex
what was his motive if he didn't get sex? why didn't he just leave when my friend offered him a ride multiple times?
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Very good question you've asked. It really depends on what his motive was. Which in this case, would be pretty difficult for any of us guys to answer, do to one major fact which is; We don't know this guy. So to help you out; It could be for any motive possible.
So maybe you can run down a list of motives you can think of, and check them off one by one. If you are flattered by the fact you didn't have sex with him and he was still willing to sit, talk, and cuddle, then understand, his motive has nothing to do with anything. You just feel an amazing feeling from you being able to talk, cuddle, and kiss, and not have someone expecting, then pushing sex on you. And it probably made you feel special, wanted, and respected. And that's a good thing.
So maybe your question could've been more along the lines of; Is it possible for a guy to sit, cuddle, and kiss, and not want or expect sex?
As far as his motives, whatever it was he wanted to do, it was done, and he was satisfied with that, and if I were you, I would take it from there. Guys are slick, and some may have motives, but not all guys. He could've just been a really cool guy, or his motives may be to go further one day. Either way, what's going to be, will be. For now, if the moments meant any bit of good to you, then embrace that, and don't kill it by worrying yourself about his motives.
I hope this help... Be safe, one love0