I'm 22 with a 2-year-old son. I work full time at a small office (recently got a promotion), am finishing out my bachelor's in social work and psychology on scholarship, and will start my master's in both so I can pursue my dream of being a counselor to abused teens and adults.
I've only been with the father of my son. The relationship was manipulative and abusive and before things were completely over, he admitted to impregnating me on purpose so he could make me stick around. I haven't been with him for over a year, and 5 months ago he decided to stop being a father to his son and has completely walked out. Not heard from him since.
I don't receive child support from him nor am I pursuing it, because that would keep him connected to the son he wants no part of. He is a diagnosed sociopath and doesn't want to be a father, so frankly, it's better for my son to stay away from him 100%. Hence the reason I also took the precaution of getting a protective order against him for both of us.
So anyways, I'm a young single mother who is financially independent with a proper income, who is also working towards towards a degree in pursuit of her aspiration to help victims of trauma, and who does not have baby daddy drama because there is no baby daddy in the picture. And who also is not promiscuous in her life decisions, just got caught in a bad situation.
Am I dating material? By no means am I assuming it's easy for a guy to become comfortable with relationship with a young mother. I just want to know if guys in their 20's would be willing to date someone like me. What do you guys think?
And I would not trade my son for ANYTHING. Despite all that I endured, I have him and he is my greatest blessing and joy.
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It would honestly depends on how compatible we were in all other aspects so that I could tolerate you having a child. It may sound like a mean thing to say since I used the term "tolerate" but, from my experience, not very many 20-year olds want to be involved with a girl with a kid. Myself included. The main aspect being because I don't want to raise someone else's kid. I know you're not necessarily looking for a substitute father, blah, blah. But there would be no long-term relationship without combining the boyfriend / child dynamic. As for a hook-up, FWB or short-term relationship where the child could be avoided, your chances would not be hindered the slightest.2