As we all know texts don't let us hear someone's tone if they're using sarcasm or not... well I ended up getting hugely embarrassed today.
We're teens in HS by the way and this girl rejected me and wants to be friends BUT she texts me a lot and talks to me a lot.. so I'm hoping she's feeling something. Anyway:
Me: (Sends teasing joke about her height)
Her: And with that this friendship is over
Me: WTF! You know what? I was tired of being "just" your friend anyway. I have way too strong feelings for you to be just your friend, so good bye and I wish you the best in the future
Her: I didn't get all of that text
Her: Nvm got it all
Me: Wait so are you actually serious? if so.. it was fun talking to ya while it lasted
Her: it's OK I understand. But I was only kidding! (In response to my ranting text above)
Her: I'm not mad, only confused!
Me: OK just forget this whole thing even happened... so how'd your day go?
Then we just chatted the rest of the day as if nothing happened. But I think I displayed some major insecurities and don't think I can ever fix my image. Should I back off? Or just continue texting her and "playing it cool"?
- Back off for a bitVote A
- Just continue talking as normalVote B
- Other(post what)Vote C
Most Helpful Guy
If you're asking what the best strategy to get her to like you is... there is none. She doesn't. You can play it cool, but you already told her how you feel, multiple times from the sound of it, and this latest one was bitchy and insecure. Take it as a lesson, and don't become friends with girls when friendship isn't what you want.
Or keep giving her a bunch of attention and acting boyfriendy and getting drained from reading too much into her text messages. It's just going to hurt your chances with other girls, ones you could have a clean slate with, and make things progressively weirder between you and her. Then maybe someday when she's bored and lonely she'll throw you some table scraps and you'll lower yourself by accepting them.
I have had friends maintain a crush for *years* when they could have been out dating and happy. It's dangerous, and it only stops when you gather your courage and let go. My best advice, harsh as it sounds, is to quit indulging yourself and give yourself the chance to be happy without hanging onto the nonexistent chance that you'll be together, because assuming she's a normal, healthy girl, the only way you could possibly be together is if she knew for sure that you won't turn into a needy wreck around her, but right now, you do.0