When a guy says 'I Love You' before you're even officially together.

I've been hanging out/dating a guy for about a month now. I said in the beginning I didn't wanna date cause he lives so far away (2 to 3 hours) So we just 'hang out'. I've meet all his friends, parents, we go to his work parties together, ect. and everyone asks if were dating and we always say no, just hanging out. This past time (and yes we sleep together) he said I Love You like 5 times while we were talking after sex one night... then said it again in the morning...AND WERE NOT OFFICIAL. Why would he say this?


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  • Many people do not know this, but there are four types of love. In the Greek dictionary, there are four definitions of love. In the English, there is one.

    Explained a little below.

    Storge – affection

    Affection (storge, st????) is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as the most natural, emotive, and widely diffused of loves: natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity; and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed "valuable" or worthy of love.

    Philia – friendship

    Philia (Greek: f???a) is the love between friends. Friendship is the strong bond existing between people who share common interest or activity. Lewis immediately differentiates Friendship Love from the other Loves. He describes Friendship as, "the least biological, organic, instinctive, gregarious and necessary of our Loves" - our species does not need Friendship in order to reproduce. He uses this point to explain that Friendship is exceedingly profound because it is freely chosen.

    Lewis explains that true friendships, like the friendship between David and Jonathan in the Bible is almost a lost art. He expresses a strong distaste for the way that modern society ignores Friendship. He notes that he cannot remember any poem that celebrated true Friendship like that between David and Jonathan, Orestes and Pylades, Roland and Oliver, Amis and Amiles. Lewis goes on to say, "to the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it".

    Lewis boldly asserts that few people in modern society appreciate true Friendship because few of them have experienced it.

    Eros – romance

    Eros (????) is love in the sense of 'being in love' or 'loving' someone. This is distinct from sexuality, which Lewis calls Venus, although he does spend time discussing sexual activity and its spiritual significance in both a pagan and a Christian sense. He identifies eros as indifferent. It is Venus that desires the sexual aspect of a relationship, while Eros longs for the emotional connection with the other person.

    Lewis concludes that Eros can become a god to people who fully submit themselves to it. He says that it can be an extremely profound experience for people even up to the point of suicide pacts and furious refusals to part.

    gape – unconditional love

    Charity (agape, ???p?) is the love that brings forth caring regardless of the circumstance. Lewis recognizes this as the greatest of loves, and sees it as a specifically Christian virtue. The chapter on the subject focuses on the need of subordinating the natural loves to the love of God, who is full of charitable love. Sacrificial love.

    A detailed definitions are here:



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  • Well, it seems he really loves you! If you love him back, then...congrats! :)

  • You don't want to date and he's showing you he cares

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