I have a three year old daughter from a previous marriage, and my boyfriend is having a hard time since he moved in, since he is used to having more privacy than he now has. I'm just not sure how to make the transition easier for all of us, the stress has been harming our relationship. We hardly ever have sex anymore because he's worried she'll walk in on us or need something, he's been grumpy because he is getting less sleep, etc. I think our relationship is strong enough to tough it out, but I was just looking for some advice on how to make things a bit easier for him.
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I don't think there is an easy way around this. Your Boyfriend is experiences the very thing that causes me to avoid girls with children (at my young age).
I would like to have at least a few years of just the two of us before I have to worry about things like, is my kid going to barge in on us or start crying right in the middle of sex.
The only solution I can think of would be to arrange more opportunities where your parents or a good friend baby sits her so that you and your Boyfriend can have some alone time. Even as much as a few nights a week. I have a friend who is 32 and has a 4 year old from a previous relationship. She still manages to come out to the bars with us all the time. She's is a great mom, she just has her parents (whom she lives with) watch her daughter while she goes out and socializes. When she's home, she spends all her time with her daughter. Sometimes she drop her off at friends houses who also have kids around her age so they can play together.
Doing this like this benefit both you and your daughter. She gets play time and or quality time with her grandparents, and you get to spend some quality time with your BF.0