I hate dating sites but use them a little bit because its next to impossible to meet a girl where I'm from. I'm just wondering about the girls who indicate they are looking for friends, or when they say they are looking to date but nothing serious. Do you mean that or are you still looking for a bf?
I'm curious because a girl emailed me out of the blue and her profile said friends. So I took it at face value. I told her we should hang out and she was excited. She asked where and I mentioned a coffee shop. She said okay but she never had a guy take her to a coffeeshop before. Our meeting lasted 20 minutes and she became very distant after that. Was she let down because she was looking for me to date her? Her profile said Friends. Should I have assumed she wanted to date because she contacted me?
I'd appreciate any thoughts and I always give out a best answer!
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I put friends/nothing serious on my profile. Why? Well, while I was looking to EVENTUALLY settle down, I was in no rush to be tied down, jump right in to romance, nor have guys approach me in a sexual manner. It seemed like an appropriate option. I just wanted to get to know guys, meet them in person and broaden my circle, since I knew I wasn't apt to meet other guys unless I was open to making new connections to potentially find it in.
The dates I went on were still intended to check romantic interest though.
I probably would have been off put and confused too, however, before going on a date, we'd talked at least enough times to imply we were getting to know one another on a 'potentially date one day' level, so through that, they had a heads up that friends meant...meeting and dating.
And through this method, I met my current boyfriend within a month. By not getting serious or narrowing in on any one guy simply because there was obligation to get serious nor were they assuming me to put out, I got to gauge the compatibility and level of enjoyment more realistically. I had the space and time to make a choice and not put too much effort early on in any one direction and end up let down. It gave me time to decide how mutual the build was and whether it was equally reciprocated without any rush or excess expectations.
It's a very effective approach for finding someone that matches best with you. It was a good foundation for dating and I highly recommend it. It's still working very well for me. Easily and truly the best relationship I've ever had.1