Hi you all, I need some help here.
I don't know why, but I have the worst luck with girls ever. It's so bad that I didn't ever have a girlfriend - I'm 19.
I thought My problem was consistency - I no longer think so after I hit on so many girls already. Several dozens...
Then I was thinking that maybe I'm just not good enough because I don't have enough class. So I thought that after I'll join to the military of my country and end up in a good job there maybe then I'll get lucky. It didn't work as well as I thought it'd be. I got to some very fancy unit and got promoted to the next rank after only a month. Apparently the job, the uniform and a protector of our nation aura doesn't do the trick with the ladies...
I don't have something like social anxiety I am capable of talking with people. In fact I'm a master when it comes to giving speeches in front of many people. After I speak people go out of their way to tell me how good I was and that I should be an orator.
About the looks I'm pretty confident. Never saw a problem there I know how to dress well with or without a uniform.
l go to clubs of people with the same interests as me. No interested girl over the horizon there...
So what the hell am I missing here!? I really don't know how to go on from here. Girls are still not showing any interest with me. Hell I've never even got to go on a date. Not because I didn't ask but because either I got rejected or they just lost interest.
This is just ridiculous I think I should be able to get girls. And my requests are pretty reasonable it's not that I have eyes only for top models.
This whole situation makes me so sad sometimes. My family members bring this issue up sometimes. They think it's very weird that I never brought a girl home because I've achieved so much for my young age. Among friends and colleagues I never talk about it because they have this fantasy that I probably have this killer knockout girlfriend that I'm hiding from them and I let them believe so because they'd most likely use it to ridicule me.
Is there anything can do to finally get there? Is there something I'm missing? I'm really lost and don't know how to get going with dating.
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My question is, do you know how to flirt? Most girls, young and old, respond to flirting. And this skill makes any man more attractive and smart than how he looks. An attractive young man who's so shy, insecure or quite serious and quiet is less attractive for most girls. Or they gives off a negative vibe. Flirtatious is actually OK and normal. Just don't go overboard. Know what most girls love to hear and be authentic. If you have good looking female friends, ask them what they like in a man. A likable man has this charm because he knows how to flirt and makes sure he's authentic. When he gives compliments, he means it. And when he sees a woman, he smiles at her coyly and look her in the eye.0
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