Okay, so I finally worked up the guts to ask this cute blond girl from my Western Civ II course. She smiled and said we could find a time later this week if she wasn't busy, so I'm taking it as a "yes", even though it's To-Be-Determined. I've never asked a girl out, I was always shy and awkward in high school so I never got around to dating, so at 19, I'm a bit late. So now, I'm anxious as hell in preparing for it, is it possible that she just said yes to be nice or even out of pity for me? How do I reassure myself otherwise?
So now I'm dwelling on my insecurities and negativity the more I think about it.
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Congrats on your coffee date!
Before I offer any advice, I think the other answers got it right when they said that you want a girl to like every part of you -- even the awkward or quirky parts (everyone has these; my boyfriend can be super awkward and I think he's great!). So you really shouldn't prepare; it's better to wing it and see how things go. If it works, that's great. If you guys don't click, that's fine too and even if it's awkward, it was good practice!
That being said, when I get anxious about dates I like to over-prepare. So I know how you feel. This is my trick: if I read anything interesting, I'll remember to bring it up in case there's a lull in the conversation. For example, this is some of the stuff I read this week:
But seriously, try to relax. If the date doesn't go well, it wasn't meant to be and you wouldn't want to force it. You have nothing to lose!1