Snooping text messages.. when is it ok? And how do you confront your spouse when you find something that disrespects your relationship?... Inappropriate conversations to their ex and another girl who has a boyfriend specifically.
Snooping text messages...when is it ok? and how do you confront your spouse when something bad is found?
What Guys Said 1
My opinion would be never, though I have a view on relationships that may be seen as idealistic. I believe the most important thing for success in any relationship--friendship, romance, marriage, etc.--is trust. Granted, if you've already found these conversations, you have reason not to trust him; however, it depends on *why* you initially wanted to snoop.
I know personally that any woman who went around my back to snoop on me in that way would be out the door in a flash, luggage on the doorstep. Also, if you share a phone bill, I believe it usually has lists of numbers contacted. That would be... less blatantly spying. Not to mention you would only see numbers, at which point it may be more... reasonable? ... to ask your husband about them. After all, if the bill is shared, you would have every reason to look at it.
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What Girls Said 1
If you're in a monogamous relationship you shouldn't be having those conversations.
If its a non-monogamous relationship it shouldn't be a problem, considering the terms of the relationship.
IMO if you sign up for monogamy you should expect to loose SOME aspects of your relationship. In a monogamous relationship, you SHOULDN'T HAVE TO SNOOP. Your partner should be willing to let you read their texts, email, est.
IF your partner feels that something is up, you should want them to feel comfortable in the relationship and not defensive.
Sorry to hear this happened to you. You should ask your spouse if they believe in monogamy. Maybe they don't/never did. They could be a non-monogamous person living a lie.0
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