There's a girl who I pursued for a few months a couple years ago. Now she's around again, but I've stopped pursuing her. I don't go out of my way to initiate conversations, I don't initiate texts or tease her or any of the things I used to do.
So now she tries to initiate (she almost never did before) and when she texts me, I don't even respond now. This is a big difference from before when I used to try to come up with something clever in response.
It feels cold-blooded and the nice-guy in me feels bad, but to be honest, I wasn't getting anywhere with her so I knew that it was finally time to cut the cord. Should I feel bad? Or satisfied knowing that all she wanted was my attention?
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I think it all depends on what you want to get. Are you now completely uninterested in her? Would you like a friendship? Whould you be up for a relationship? (it doesn't sound like the latter).
It's not about feeling good because now she's the one in misery. I mean, that doesn't sound too mature. Then again, you're young and it might seem like justice to you, but in the long run, all you can feel good about is knowing that you're worth someone's effort, and that you did everything you could atfer being clear with her.
Have you been clear with her? If you're just toying her around, making her believe you're there for her or that you harbor even a small chance for a date and you aren't/don't, then tell her so. Don't waste your time thinking about this and don't waste her time in case she's now interested. Girls can change their mind and maybe she now sees you differently. If you really don't care about her then tell her so, but if you want to get somewhere with her, then don't blow it.
The nice guy in you should tell her what you think as honest as possible. Avoid all mind games that could hurt either of you.0