So clearly I have some major issues with women since I can't get a date 9/10 times, and when I do they always fail on the second or third date even though the first date goes really well. It always feels like work--I always have to drive 98% of the conversation by asking questions about the person, or trying to make jokes, or trying to be interesting. If I don't drive the conversation, it's awkward because it gets quiet really fast. I've never had fun because its stressful trying to keep her engaged for an hour or two. By the second or third date I'm out of conversation material and it usually ends up with neither of us talking to each other again. I have no issues with confidence, and I've been told I'm an 8/10. The girls I ask out aren't even that attractive since I had to lower my standards exponentially to get a date in the first place. I think it really boils down to a lack of shared interests. I would enjoy talking about physics, politics, computer science, philosophy, or even news, but I realize that most girls find it really boring. SO far I've never even found a girl who would be willing to talk about more profound subjects; if they do, I'm sure it would be in a non dating context and I would be insta friend zoned. The last girl I was on a date with liked talking about hip hop, golf, and sports. I would rather stab myself in the eye with a javelin than talk about those subjects. I'm not trying to be sexist, but it seems like so many girls are just a rehash; they like to talk about celebrities, gossip, sports, mainstream music, or have boring emotional conversations. It also seems like every woman is religious and wants to wait till the f***ing 900th date to do anything sexual. And if you don't pay for the date, the girl will never even consider having sex. Dating is such bullcrap for men, and women have it way easier.
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Alright, well... it's great that you want to find a relationship with a woman, but I think the problem here is that you're lowering your standards... You even admit to doing so... Would you really be happy being with a woman who has no similiar interests as you like you stated? Why not wait for the perfect woman who meets all of your needs?
Then your problem would be solved.
I also think that maybe you shouldn't do ALL of the chasing. If a girl is interested in you nowadays she will show some spark of interest, (staring at you, a smile, flirting) when a girl does those things then you should use your "manly powers" lol and go up to her and make the moves.. It should be her flirting with you then you flirting with her and there should be CHEMISTRY.
I think your problem is you're jumping head long into something you already know isn't going to work but right now you're bored.. or you want a relationship so for the time being you're settling..
Like I said.. I think your problem is not all of those things.. Your problem is patience... having an open mind lol (Because not every girl is going to want to have sex right away sometimes you do have to be patient lol).. and waiting for the right girl :P the one you TRULY want
believe you can get her and don't settle for less just because you're bored or because you don't think its possible to meet the woman of your dreams
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