I have this female friend who will text me everyday and even talk about dating in the future. But all of a sudden she stops texting and start to date someone else. She would even make me aware that she is going to be dating someone knowing that I like her. But few months later she texting me eveyday again after she breaks up the guy. She has don't this like 5 times within almost 2 years time frame. its like a routine. She always push me to the side when she is dating and then come back when she is not. Normally the girl just won't talk anymore once she find someone. Why is doing this? Why does she keeps coming back?
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Ok, what I am about to say may hurt you. I'm sorry about that and I want you to know I've been there before too so you're not alone.
You are Plan B. That means that she knows that you will always be there for her and she can get the rush of knowing you like her when she feels down or is single and wants the attention. She is interested in you enough to entertain the possibility of a relationship, but not enough to actually start a relationship with you. When she finds Plan A i.e other guys that she likes, she throws Plan B to the side because she doesn't need it anymore. That's why she doesn't contact you while dating others. It is also respectful to the other guy not to talk to guys she knows is interested in her.
In all reality, she will not start a relationship with you. She would have already if she was truly interested in being your girlfriend. I know, it sucks. The best thing would be to tell her that you've enjoyed getting to know her, but you no longer want to be her yo-yo. You do not deserve to be pushed to the side when she finds another guy. If she truly wants you, then the thought of losing you will push her to commit. I don't recommend you tell her that just to get what you want, because it will backfire, but you need to set your boundaries.
I wish you the best!4
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