Ive had a f*** buddy with a single mom but I don't know dating her always just didn't sound OK to me. I guess its all the responsibility that would come with it for a child that isn't mine.
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I've dated 2 single moms.
1) She had 2 brats aged 4 and 7, she had just recently ended it with the father of the 2 kids when we started hanging out and dating, this is one sure way to make some enemies as that guy is gonna hate you no matter what. Thankfully he took the brats often as they had joint custody and I just kept away from her whenever she had them about though there were moments when I was caught in the cross-fire as I was at the house and so happened her ex showed up early with the kids... can be awkward. The mistake I made with this woman is starting to date her so soon after her breakup and things weren't quite settled down yet. The good thing though is I made it very clear to her that I wanted no part of her kids as I wasn't interested in playing house and I certainly didn't like the idea of paying for someone else's kids... can be tricky though as many single moms will expect their guy to play a part in their kids life though not necessarily as dad.
2) She had 4 kids aged 3, 5, 9 and 14, she had been divorced for 3 years when we first started seeing each other. It was primarily a fortnight relationship as I only saw her then due to work commitments and it also so happened that that was the weekend her ex had the kids. I was happy with it being that way but eventually it got to it that she wanted more and that meant having to deal with her brats. Yes eventually you will need to fork out some money for them, I mean you will eventually be asked to go for a date where all of you went to an amusement park... chances are you will end up paying for some parts for the kids, maybe a hotdog or a lemonade or something. If her only source of income is from child support, then you will need to be extra careful especially in current economic times, her ex was a teacher and shock and horror he lost his job and couldn't pay child support, it becomes a very difficult situation as if she asks for money to feed her kids, keep the heat on etc it is darn near impossible to tell her no and you can forget about the money ever being repaid.
After those 2, I stay away from women with kids though am open to being FWB with them.0