So when it comes to dating and "other things" I'm really inexperienced because I used to be really overweight and never got attention from guys. Then I got healthy and lost all the extra weight and I was shocked at how much attention I started getting from guys, I've never felt like I was "super hot" or anything just a girl with a pretty good personality. Anyways now that guys want to get with me and stuff I'm worried that they will think its weird that I'm so inexperienced when it comes too "bedroom things" I've only ever fooled around with one guy and I was high and that was the only time and it was really awkward and I regretted it after. But all I've done is give head once and got f ingered once that's it. what I want to know is would you think its weird if you thought a girl was really hot then found out she was so inexperienced? would you believe her? should I tell guys I'm so inexperienced? how do I bring it up when I start dating someone? what would a guy think of it? I'm 20 by the way and I've never had a bf
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If I found out while dating, obviously I'd feel awesome to have found a girl that understands my pain. I was the nerdy kid with low social kids that got bullied, but now I'm becoming slowly the athletic business guy that's classy and well spoken. What a transition. I get stared at sometimes by older women like I was a piece of meat just waiting to be raped. -_- gives me the creeps in my mind I'm still the kid that was bullied for being too smart. The way I managed the transition was to accept it as being part of me and keeping it a secret. I wouldn't want people running around the word that I was bullied as a kid and got ripped and learned self-defense.
As for the bedroom part, people in general can't tell sh!t about how experienced you are unless you tell them upfront. Also, that could be a lie that you tell them and they might even build an impression of you from that lie. So I wouldn't worry so much about it. Above all, now that you're more attractive you'll get the V.I.P treatment that comes with it, people are nicer to you no matter what circumstances and open/hold doors for you.
For the part involving bringing up that information into a new relationship, the person doesn't have to know about your past, unless you feel that you can trust the person with that kind of burden without it flying around Facebook. I've managed to have a relationship with someone without divulging that kind of information about myself, it creates tension when the person tries to dig it up, but you can always tell the person "there are some parts of my past that I'd rather keep to myself" can we change subject. POW! -_- I've slapped the question so hard that her ancestors felt the pain.
When the time comes to be very intimate with someone, just remember to RELAX and go with what feels right eventhou it's a new experience.0