I met a guy online two months ago. Went out 5 dates. Did become intimate the last two meetings. He seems very into me. The only issue is not much contact between dates..last few times, we did have a bit more phone conversation. And it seems like we are getting to know each other a bit more slowly.
Big red flag...he is a businessman and often travels a lot. So the last time he promised he would call once he returns and did straight from the airport (I heard all the a/p noise) and saying he wants to catch up once he returns in two weeks. We had a good conversation, him asking about my days and stuff...and him telling me his updates as well as teasing a bit.
He is gone for two weeks, I emailed him last week, no reply. He will be back next two days.
I am wondering if he is just playing with me...or leading me on. Last time he went away for 10 days, we had a few email contact.
At this point, we are not in the Skype committed relationship yet...its rather early in the dating timing. I am letting him lead and don't want to seem pushy.
Well, I became insecure due to no email respond, so I checked and found he had an old closed online account from my city. He has only been in my city a few months and told me he is new to the online dating thing. Is this guy worth trusting?
At this point he has not done anything that would make me think otherwise aside from the closed dating account, however, if one wish to hide something its rather easy.
Also, everything seem too good to be true like, he is a very gentleman and very attentive to me while on a date.
Any insight would greatly appreciated.
so far so good I guess he is genuinely busy..
thank you all for helping.
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I don't think he's necessarily doing anything malicious, but I don't think he's fully invested in progressing this relationship either. He enjoys talking to you and seeing you when he's around, and when he's not, he's focused on other things. He may not be interested in a relationship right now in general. I would advise that you take a big step back once you start feeling insecure the way you are now. It will help you to rebuild the trust issues you have with relationships, and it will also help you weed out the guys who are no good. Sometimes, there is a very good reason you are sensing you can't trust him, even if there is concrete evidence not to.
Start thinking of yourself as a hot commodity. Don't waste time on guys who don't communicate the way you would like or make you feel insecure so early on. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, or get so bent out of shape over one guys' behavior (there are plenty others). This attitude will keep you carefree and fun, not so invested in one guy, until one guy turns out to be great for you.1