Would you rather date an very attractive guy that has no manners, is a jerk, and treats you like he would his guy friends OR date a average looking, nice guy that has manners, shows you respect, and treats you like a lady.
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Nice guy. Girls do give the supposedly nice guys a chance. When we first start dating them, they pretend to be the nice guy for the first 3-6 months. Then the guy becomes comfortable and slowly reveals what he's truly like. After a while, the things they do (and don't do) add up and we realize how that guy is actually a jerk. A lot of times, that's the behavior that the girls are complaining about on FB and to their friends. However, that guy we're dating still thinks he's a nice guy no matter how much we bring up his natural behavior (that he starts revealing when he takes the girl for granted.
There aren't actually a lot of nice guys out there. But there are many guys who claim that they are and they keep quoting the same lines as your title. That myth is continually perpetuated. Please realize that some girls try to find the nice guys but only find the ones that pretend to be. Initially, it's difficult to leave the pretenders because we fell in love with the nice guy that they pretended to be and we're hoping that the character will somehow come alive again. However, when realize it's futile, then we leave. If we leave too early, then we would doubt our decision and make excuses for the guy because we would feel bad about not getting more proof.
If you are young, I hope you realize that a lot of the girls that do want a nice guy are waiting for a later time to start a relationship. Depending on their age, nice guys don't get girlfriends because the sensible ones are waiting and the spontaneous girls are choosing the supposedly "exciting" jackasses. When you are older, it's easier to find a nice girl who has started dating.
However, I want to give you some tips on what a real nice guy is so that you won't become one of the pretenders.
1. Be true to your word and do what you would have done in a theoretical situation, not on stress and how busy you are. I have vetted my boyfriend by asking him how he would act in certain theoretical situations. He sounded like a nice guy. After the first few months, however, he uses the excuse of stress and being busy to excuse his "illogical" (inconsiderate) behavior that contradicts what he said before. Even when he's free, he voluntarily takes up more work (that he assigned to himself) to create more stress and continue the cycle.
2. Both in the beginning and ever, don't lie about your past or what you are doing just to make her keep liking you. We will find out and won't trust you about the big issues(cheating)
3. Don't ever think that you have won her over permanently. That's when the natural inconsiderate behavior starts showing. The guy starts putting less effort in what he's saying & writing and the amount of times that he contacts her. His romantic creativity starts dwindling. The guy starts spending more QUALITY time with friends rather than the girl. Ex: He'll eat out and play sports with groups but he thinks it's enough for his girl to only see him at the apartment.1