I think I screwed up big time with this guy I met (online).
I thought he was not interested because he kept putting our dates on hold (dates he'd plan himself!). He cancelled many times.
As I thought he was not interested, I started seeing someone else (nothing serious) and therefore updated my status to "seeing someone".
Ever since I updated my status last Thursday, this guy literally fell off the face of the earth. It's very likely he saw my status change because that day, he logged on several times (which never happens). But he's been offline since, which is highly unlike him as he's been going on this website every single day since we started talking about 5 months ago (even when we were not speaking).
Maybe it has nothing to do with me. But for some reason, I'm under the impression I'm somehow the factor that caused such disappearance because it's a strange coincidence. I really wanted things to move forward with him.
Could it be that he is a bit annoyed/pissed/jealous? I have no idea what's going through his head.
I don't know what to do because I'm very attracted to him but I have no idea if he's interested and if me seeing someone made him run away for good!
I'd hate to think that I screwed him over if he was actually interested.
What should I do?
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Trying to guess what's going on here will probably do a lot more harm than good. If the thing with guy #2 isn't that serious, and you want to see guy #1 again, then just tell guy #1 what's going on. You don't need to sound desperate or anything, but there's nothing wrong with saying, "Listen, I got the impression you weren't really interested since you kept cancelling our dates, but maybe I was just misinterpreting that. I'd still be interested in getting together if you are. If not, no big deal." Honesty can actually go a long way, and there are three possible options for his response:
1) He doesn't respond at all, in which case you can see how things develop with guy #2.
2) He says he's not interested, which he'll be more honest about if you are honest with him, and you can see how things develop with guy #2.
3) He says he is interested and there were legitimate reasons for cancelling the dates, in which case you can see him again (while making sure that you remain honest with guy #2 to avoid messes down the line).2