I know I'm a smart hardworking person and that is also in my love life. I read books on dating, watched YouTube videos all that sh*t.
I've been on four dates in my entire life all from this website in the past year, all first dates with different guys obviously.
Never even kissed I'm 23. And the last date I had about a week ago the guy was a total jerk. Msged me for 3 weeks but then after he saw me in person he talked for about 45 min a then checked his watch and asked me when I was going to meet my friends. He was very attractive and smart too... and basically rejected me b.c. didn't message me after the date and when I texted him he gave me answers which implied he didn't want to talk.
Anyways met another guy on an the same online website which is free. He's moved here for the last month from a smaller town, because he got a job. Lives about 15 minutes away from me. Anyway, after I sent my pic they guys answers/questions weren't as long as before I sent the pic and the convo was boring. Then I asked to exchange number since I was going to close the site. He gave me his number. I don't think he really puts in an effort to have a conversation. Asks me things but not really there kind of thing.
I told him to call me one night and the next day he msged and said he got tired from work and fell asleep (but he had a online status on pof chat at the time I remember...maybe the app just says "On" who knows)
I told him to call me one day this past week, he said sure in a bit. 3 hrs later I text him and he said he'll call then. Did that about 15 min later.
He's a pretty attractive guy and smart too. We talked about 10 min on the phone and then he said he had to do some chores/battery was dying and he sounded tired and also asked if I wanted to do coffee the next day. I messaged him to let him know (next day) that I couldn't do it then and could we re-schedule for thurs. I don't here from him so I message him using an app that tells when the person reads your msg. I asked him if he got my message yday and he said no. I ask to reschedule for a different day, he was okay with that. We haven't talked for 2 days and today I message him to arrange the date for tmrw and now he reads my msgs and doesn't reply. =ANOTHER REJECTION FML
I really liked him and I keep getting rejected, I'm getting so annoyed and upset I'm lashing out at other people b.c. I'm so mad. I've been bridesmaid to my friends wedding this year (same age and she's has a lot of experience) and I can't even get a f***ing kiss. I'm so depressed.
I talked to this online guy friend I made from last year about it and he's known my guys issues. And last time I talked to him he was like "you've been rejected so many times you should be used to it by now".
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I don't think 4 unsuccessful first dates qualifies as "a lot of rejection".
I am looking at what you've written: You are 23, and the only times you've dated were this year from an online dating service. You read books on dating and watch YouTube videos.
You are just inexperienced, obviously. Based on what I know about you, you probably lack the conversation skills with guys if you can only manage to get dates online. Starting a conversation and maintaining it in person is a lot different than online as you have experienced. All the books and videos won't help you if you don't get out there and practice.
This isn't bad or even rejection, really. I'd say rejection is when a guy refuses to talk to you, or doesn't show any interest (which the 4 guys did show...initially). They saw something about you that made them interested but the conversation/chemistry didn't light up. Once you get better at talking, you will become more personable and guys will want to go on second dates and such.
Look at it this way: You've decided to have an active dating life and you are off to the right start. Do NOT compare yourself to your friends getting married, etc...you are not your friend, you are the 23 year old girl who is getting more knowledgeable in dating. It goes back to that quote "Be yourself, because everyone else is taken".
The best thing you can do for yourself is be confident. Like you said, you're a smart hardworking person. Work hard, and you'll catch on quickly on how to behave around guys.0