I'm doubting whether I should keep seeing this guy.
WARNING: this is long and detailed :)
*** Background information ***
We met at a club, he first met my friend and after a while got interested in me. Asked my number and told me the next day that he really liked me and wanted to meet up - we talked and he seemed like a nice guy but I said no first and he insisted. So I gave it a try.
*** First meeting ***
I don't count this as a date. He took me to the place we met and we had a drink with a friend of his. Danced, kissed a bit and it was okay - I wouldn't feel like doing it again though.
*** First - actual - date ***
We went to a park, had a nice time. Then went to his house (wasn't what we'd planned but I was fine with it), I met his parents and then we watched a film. The parents left and we spooned on the bank, kissed a bit.
Then he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and I said this went too fast. He accepted it.
*** Between two dates ***
He asked me to come to a barbeque with his family, asked me to a party for his parent's 25th anniversary and to a family meeting.. but I felt like it all went too quickly, so we agreed to go to the cinema.
*** Second date ***
Before we went to the cinema, he took me to his place, we hadn't decided which film we'd watch. So we checked out the films and decided, but still had two hours before it started. So we had nothing to do and watched a film on his TV in his room. He kind of made a move on me (wanted to lay on top of me).. and I said I didn't feel like that. So asked him why he liked me and I told him I didn't know my feelings for him yet.. that it takes time.
We left to the cinema and when we got out of the car he didn't touch me, hold my hand or anything. In the que not either. Not in the cinema either. I had to grab hold of his hand and he didn't give a kick.
It's weird, because he was so affectionate with me in his room.
After the film I wanted something to drink so we drove to the McDonald's, it was in the middle of the night and he walked in with me and walked out in front of me, not looking back or holding my hand, smiling or whatever.
He kissed me goodbye and that was it.
I have another date with him this evening..
Do you think I can trust him? It seems weird that he's not affectionate in public but he is at his place. And why does he move so fast with wanting to be my boyfriend?
Most Helpful Girl
No. I am sorry to say that you are the problem in this situation. . You are leading him on, if you don't like him why are you still going on a date with this guy?. . I think you should tell him that you are not interested him, and move on. The reason he stop doing it is because you are not taking the relationship serious (even if he is going too fast). If you decide to date him, you need to accept him as he is, and tell him to slow down, but if not than you shouldn't do what you have been doing. . That isn't fear to him.
Sorry for being so harsh with the answer, but it has happened to me before... before you know it you will fall in love, and he will fall out of love. . And you will become heartbroken.
good luck. :)0