Maybe its just me, but I find it really arrogant to act like you've met EVERY FEMALE and know what EVERY FEMALE wants.
I know a ton of girls who wouldn't date jerks (atleast the ones guys describe). I've never dated a jerk in my life. And yet, because I have a v..., I'm being blame for the bad choices guys make because they chased after stupid girls.
Where were those guys in high school? Why didn't you approach one of my friends? My best friend never had a date and she's the sweetest and smartest person I've ever met.
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I have a theory about this. First things first, there are a lot of people out there, and as such there are a lot of different behaviors out there that most all of us find both frustrating and confusing, regrettably with all of these behaviors out there, there are also a great deal of people (both men and women) who don't want to accept responsibility for their actions, and to this end they often divert responsibility by taking part in undesirable behaviors. If you think about it, almost all of the behavior of a typical jerk can be organized into a pattern, in that they are arrogant, abusive, think only of themselves, generally don't communicate well and use everybody else to satisfy their own needs and then want to blame everybody else for their own actions. A large part of how this mentality works comes from generalizing, or making broad blanket statements about other groups of people (e.g. Left handed people are dumb, short people are mean) or similar statements which are not based on any actual truth, in doing this they are taking away the identity of those people they are generalizing, by doing this it is both easier to insult them, and by consequence excuse (in their own mind) the bad behavior they are taking part in. So odds are the people who want to generalize are seeking a way to excuse bad behavior of their own or are perhaps frustrated themselves, and have not taken any time to think about their own situation with any degree of thought. So take heart, I'm confident that you don't want to date jerks, I suspect that if you talked to the person who said this, you might find there is a little more there, than the blanket statement they just issued, and while you don't have to explore, you might find that more often than not people who make broad blanket statements are often to blame for their own misfortunes rather than all of the "other" people they claim are making them suffer so. I hope this helps ease your mind some.1