So, my inspiration for this question came from this other question on here: link
Basically, I was pretty shocked with how many people (mainly men) agreed with this QA. I mean, I've heard of a lot of victim blaming but blaming the woman because her husband/bf/whatever decides to cheat on her? It makes no sense. What ever happened to personal responsibility?
And this "blaming others" issue isn't just about this particular subject, I've seen it MANY times in many different forms. (Blaming a woman because she gets raped, men blaming women because they can't get a date, women blaming men because they never get approached for dates, etc.)
What I mentioned is just an example. So, why do so many people blame others rather than looking at themselves and taking responsibility for their own actions/problems? I don't understand it.
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There are guys who simply lack self reflection lol. It's a problem on GaG. For starters, the QA doesn't actually have to be a girl. Several cases of guys making female accounts to pull stuff like this. So whenever you see an anonymous person who claims to be one thing, and bashes the thing they claim to be (for example, a woman who outright bashed women, or a minority who outright bashes the minority he/she is) take it with a HUGE grain of salt.
Now back to the issue. Yes there is a lot of the blame game to go around in dating. On GaG in particular, it's usually (but not limited to) guys attacking girls for actually wanting to have standards. How dare you [women] raise the bar higher than I can reach. You are women after all. Second class citizens below the threshold of a person who is allowed to be choosy. Smarten up, lower that damn bar and accept what I put in front of you. <---- That is usually the subtle mentality, which is expressed through light jabs such as "oh ALL women want a model" "Oh ALL women are shallow" "omg women won't approach me. This is now civil rights issue and a fight for equality!" blah blah blah, whine whine whine. Women aren't any more shallow than men are in their selection process.
So when I see an uber shallow girl, I don't blame women...only human thinking. I don't even hate on people who are like that. If a woman wants a rich hot guy. That's her right as an individual to chase after, just as if a guy wants a specific kind of girl, that's his right. The reason why its such a big issue for some guys is that they lack the ability or willingness to compete and fight for what they want. So Instead of trying to jump for a bar to high for them, they try to lower the whole bar. It's a race to the bottom across the board, and the winners are usually the ones who blame themselves the least.
It's funny when a look at that link. Many of the guys didn't even stop to consider what the QA does is extremely wrong. But people were quick to cheer with the QA and ignore her despicableness out of opportunism. A defector from the enemy camp has great uses, and in this case it was to needlessly put women in their place for something they don't deserce 100% blame for. The way some guys lunged into the QA's bosom in that link reminds me of this question
Overall, this is something that you eventually get use to on here. It's a pity party cabal. A collection of the unfortunate who have found company in misery. A congregation of the hypocritical. A mob of irrationalists. An aggregation of the duped and practitioners of banality2