Why are there so many questions about whether or not white guys will date a black girl?
I feel like part of the reason is that people on here give the girls who ask these questions false hope by saying that white men will. Then these girls go out into the real world and that's not the case. About 95% of white men will not, because they already have a perception of black women.
I think most black women are open to IR dating but they know the odds are against them. And most are not desperate to date interracially.
Plus, when you look at questions like this with over 200+ honest responses, it's weird why some would ignore the honesty:
Or when you look at statistics such as white men being the most likely to date interracially while black women the least likely. If white men were open to interracial dating with black women, they'd go after them
But why so many questions?
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To be bluntly honest, black girls have a big stereotype working against them that they are loud, obnoxious, and dramatic women. I'm sure I speak for most guys, white or otherwise, when we say that that type of behavior is definitely not alluring in the least bit. Guys don't want to be around an annoying girl that acts out just for the sake of having eyes on her or to be heard, and we definitely don't feel at home around a girl that refuses to acknowledge her own behavior problems because she calls it "confidence" instead.
So the unfortunate reality of this topic is that the black girls that AREN'T like this still have the burden of proving that they aren't part of this stereotype. It's definitely a large enough stereotype that it cannot (and is not) ignored by people in society. So this is why many play it safe and wait for confirmation that a person isn't like that rather than finding out for themselves. So a black girl wishing to date outside her race has to unfortunately put in enough effort to break herself away from that stereotype.
People that say white men will date black women on this site are partially right. But like society, they're a bit too idealistically answering behind a keyboard rather than observing reality. Some white men just unconsciously see other races as their own "breed". This sounds like racism but that's not what I'm referring to. Whether from the guy himself or more often, from society, people of different races are identified far too much by their race that people just have this unconscious inclination towards their own race. It's not an overt choice, just where their mind is steered. Fortunately, I've seen a lot of the younger generation not falling into this type of division.
The reason that black men "hold down" black women is because of a simple but powerful force of nature: the male ego. Black women are known to be strong, "in your face" women so to back down from that is surrendering your manhood to that. Black men have been dating interacially for some time now and can you guess why? Non-black women aren't as much of a hassle (using generalities, like I've been using this entire answer) as black women.
So without placing any blame on who is responsible for this behavior, whether or not it's true, the use of stereotypes, etc...the straight reality about it is that the stereotype is seen enough to where it's easier for people to just avoid it rather than dig through the black female population to see who fits the stereotype and who doesn't.5