Now before you go off on how they're all batsh*t crazy, here me out.
I identify as a feminist, but I suppose I'm more of an equalist. I don't believe in female dominance or anything. I truly believe the genders should be equal.
For example, if Jane and Jack grow up in the same town, attend the same school, then attend the same university, each get the same degree, are both hired by the same company to do the exact same job, at the exact same time, I think Jane and Jack should be paid the exact same salary. However, that's not so in many cases, and that is why I identify the way I do.
Additionally, I believe in sharing household chores and working. If he's hungry or if he thinks the house is dirty, he is more than able to cook/clean himself.
That's not to say that I refuse to do household chores or anything. If I am hungry, I am more than willing to make the food. And if I think the house is dirty, I am more than able and willing to clean it myself.
I don't ever play the "girl" card to get out of doing something. I don't think all men are pigs and out to oppress me or anything. I think the radical feminists are crazy and just down right wrong.
I don't deny feminism (make up/dresses) but I don't dress girlie all the time (I'm usually in jeans and a nicer t-shirt) but when I do dress up, I do my best to look as girlie as possible,
The only reason I would be considered feminist is because I support equal pay for the genders (if they do the EXACT same job) and that guys can do household chores too.
I don't believe in lowering standards for women in police forces/fire squads or military. I think that having a lower standard makes it dangerous for victims who need help. I know I can't carry a body out of a burning building, and I know I sure as hell don't want to be dragged out. I'd want to be carried safely.
I fully accept that there would be fewer females in those types of jobs if the standards were the same for both sexes, but at least the females who could do the job would be able to do it safely and correctly.
You can probably guess, but I can shoot my gender in the foot, as it were. I see flaws with the extreme feminists way of thinking. If they truly want equality, they need to get in the game too and make sacrifices to move to middle ground too.
So...would you date a girl with these views?
- YesVote A
- NoVote B
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Probably, but that is because I can date someone I don't always agree with, and there are a few areas in which I disagree with you.
First, I disagree with the term feminism being associated with equality. Feminism is about raising up women, in all areas, as much as possible. Period. Equality is not part of the equation. Someone who truly believes in equality is called an egalitarian or an egalitarianist.
I slightly disagree with the whole "I'll clean when I think it's dirty, you clean when you think it's dirty"plan simply because it means the person with the higher tolerance for filth does less cleaning.
As for your Jane and Jack example, I agree that they should be paid the same if she negotiates her salary as aggressively as Jack (she won't), she calls in sick as seldom as Jack (she won't) She takes time off for person or family reasons as seldom as Jack (she won't), She doesn't expect to get months of paid vacation simply because she entered the voluntary medical state known as pregnancy (she will) She will cost her employers health insurance provider the same amount as Jack (she won't), and she focuses as much on career development as Jack (she won't).
Of course that is all speaking in generalities, but since it is a general example, it is worth bringing up the fact that, on average, women will simply spend less time and effort on their careers than men.
But other than a few details I really do like your views, particularly your views about not lowering standards to allow women into physical jobs where other people depend on them.3