Does it honestly make you even somewhat resentful towards her? Or can you honestly say it's not a big deal and move forward with being friends? Will it always linger in the air when you are around her or is it forgotten immediately? I always feel so awkward when I don't want to date a guy and just want to know how guys really feel.
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For some guys it's hurts more than others. For some guys, you turn them down and they get upset and hurt, and they kinda ask "why not me?" or they keep asking, thinking they'll wear you down.
It's generally a good idea, no matter what, to just turn them down, but also make a distinction. In other words, if you're not interested right now, either because you don't like the event, don't want to go on that particular kind of date, or don't have the time, you should say so, truthfully, or maybe add a "Not this time, but maybe another time, perhaps?" just to give him an opportunity to try again. Elaborating your reasons why could help, just don't get too detailed, and don't lie.
Also, if you are just not interested in dating HIM, ever, then you should just tell him that too. Because if you leave it open ended like you're just not interested right now, etc, then you leave an opportunity for him to get the idea he might have another chance, and he might ask you out again. It's better you tell him you're just not interested. Not interested in him, specifically. Explain that it's nothing personal, and he's probably alright, but he's not what you're looking for, or just plainly not his type, or something, but give a reason, and try to be nice about it, and don't lie.
For me, I don't take it personally. But if I ask a girl out, I only ask her out once. If I tell her that I have feelings for her, I only do it once. The way I see it, if I said it, she knows it, I don't need to repeat myself, so if she ever changes her mind, it's on her to ask me out or make some kind of move. I've already tried. She said no. I'm respecting that. I might even move on and find somebody else. I tend not to dwell on the girls who rejected me. It's not a blow to my ego. It's happened before, It will happen again, it happens to everybody. It's nothing personal.
So how's this? Does this help you at all?7