Okay... so... I'm a little confused.
Back in March, my boyfriend of 5 years ignored me for a week, and then text me to tell me he liked someone else. He took her out on a date that night and they've been together ever since, and are now living together. (We never lived together)
Since then I've had a bit of a rough time. I took time out to heal, I started doing all the things I was too scared to do when I was with him. I started acting a bit more my age, and not like a 40 year old.
Okay... so on my birthday about a month ago, I slept with a friend. It was completely casual, it's not weird between us. For me, it was a huge step. Not only for being with someone who wasn't my ex, but because I was drugged and raped a few months ago; I've received help.
I've met someone at work, and I'm not sure how I feel. He treats me amazingly; he cooks for me, he lights candles, he respects me, he walks me home and never lets me walk next to the road, he doesn't push me, he texts me good morning and good night everyday. But I'm not sure if I'm attracted to him... and I know he's falling for me.
So; I have a guy who treats me amazingly, and listens. The friend I slept with I'm more attracted to but is completely opposite - the friend is interested in the same things, he makes me laugh and I love how easy going he is. He's younger and shorter than me with a very slim body. Whereas the other is older, has a flat and a car, is a larger build, taller than me, but our interests are different.
Do I stay single? Or try and date? I have been moving on from my ex but I think I'm at the point I need someone new so I don't think about my ex and his girlfriend. It doesn't help that they follow me to my gigs...
I'm so confused!
Most Helpful Guy
stay single! Don't rush back into another relationship so quickly. Despite the despicable atrocity that was committed against you...try to have the self confidence/esteem to spend some time getting to know yourself outside the confines of a relationship. Those that quickly dive back into serious relationships as soon as one ends tend to do so out of insecurity. Live life a little. Answer to no one for a while. Date and sleep with whoever you want for a few months...or more!
One day, when you are married, have a couple of kids and have moved on to the next phase of your life...you will look back on this time and you will be so glad that you had the confidence to spend some time at this age living for yourself and experiencing the wonders of being a confident/successful (and I am sure...) beautiful young single women.
Live it up girl!