Following up these stories:
I saw this guy again. We've been texting everyday since we met on Friday. Went on a first date on Sunday and today, we went for coffee near my apartment. I made it quick since I have studying to do. Same thing again, he stops me in the street to make out, he sweet talks to me, tells me compliments. Sometimes, I even felt like he cut the silences short or interrupted me to try to make out more.
I flat out asked him what he wanted, when we were returning.
His answer was along the tines of ''I don't want to get involved too quick. My ex told me she loved me two weeks after we got together, she had the couply picture on Facebook, she introduced me to her parents way too early, she'd often tell me I was the man of her life. I was her first boyfriend and things got serious way too soon. Her parents didn't like me but I kept going to these family dinners they invited me to, which I couldn't stand."
Blabla bla, basically he dumped her after 9 months. He had lots of anecdotes about their relationship, which makes me think he's saying the truth about his ex. HOWEVER, I still think he's coming on waaaayyy too strong for someone who wants to take things easy. He's restraining from trying to get in my pants, he's respectful of my private boundaries, but the making out is overdone and I'm getting sick of putting my foot down when I want to leave or walk instead of making out in public. He just seems too eager to get closer physically, it's making me uncomfortable, and I wonder if it's a good reason to dump his arse. I want a serious relationship, and I tend to believe that if he's all over me like that after less than a week, he's infatuated and it's not gonna last. I'm not naive enough to believe that I have won him over that quickly when he's 25 years old and probably has way more experience dating-wise than I do.
In contrast, I dated my ex for like 2 weeks before we even kissed. This guy is hugging me, french-kissing me and rubbing me like we're long-time lovers. Sometimes, I think to myself ''Dude, calm the f*** down, I'm not won over already". I truly feel like I have the upper hand in this as I'm definitely not all over him, neither am I ever truly letting myself go. Tonight, I flat out broke free, lead him to the subway exit and commanded him to leave right now because I had to study. What's your opinion on all of this mess? Please be polite alright.
Me: Let's say that your intentions are very clear now.
Him: I think I can't give you what you want, I am sorry.
Me: It's all right. I can't give you what you want either. At least, now we're honest.
Him: I have enormous respect for you. I'm sorry I probably wasted your time. I wish you the best sincerely
Him: Me neither. I kiss you. Good luck for the future and for your exams xox
I couldn't be happier. He was a gent after all, and I didn't let him play me! :)
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The stuff about taking it slow is just a line he's learned. He knows women will put up with his antics if he keeps saying he wants to take things slow.
His actions say he wants a quick sexual affair, and that's all.
Somehow, I've always paid more attention to actions than words, whether in politics or in personal relationships!0
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