So my ex girlfriend dumped after dating for 10 months. She told me that she never loved me. In all fairness, I never told her that I loved her during that year, but I think I was workng towars developing those feelings.
I tried to get her back during the initial breakup by pouring my heart to hear in a long, handrwritten letter, but to no avail. What makes the breakup complicated is that we are in the same social circle and tend to run into each other here and there. That's why I wanted to keep things amicable even though she said things that hurt me.
Anyway, 2 months of NC passed and we then saw each other at an event. I approached her, smiled and said hello. She was friendly enough, but not too warm. The next time, she was bit friendlier. Then a month passed when I did not see her. When I did and I approached to say hello, she went completely cold and rude on me. I was stunned and hurt, but maintained the high road.
I later found out that her friends had told her that I had been seen socializing and dating other women (nothing serious). I had a feeling this would get back to my ex, but if the ex was interested in a reconciliation, should she not have made that clear? Couldn't she make a move since she dumped and told me not to contact her again? I was also put off by the fact that, while she told me we can remain friends, that I could fee free to call her for coffee, but that she would never call me, because she "had a full life.". That hurt. She also told me that she was used to guys chasing her, including her exes who were married. I did not want to be one of those guys and feed her ego.
Nevertheless, if I was hoping for a reconciliation, did I really blow it by dating other women and having a life with female friends?
We are not talking a week or month after the breakup before I was seen with other women (once again, nothing serious and mostly platonic), but months.
Thanks for any help/advice/insight.
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Wow that chick is a capital B capital ITCH. Honestly I think you did do the right thing, because you don't want to be with someone who makes you feel obsolete and unworthy of her affections. Her problem is that she is probably bitter about past break ups and listening to advice from friends can really change how a girl views you. The fact that you started dating other girls was like a slap in face to her. Women like her want you to grovel at their feet and be lost without them.
To me it doesn't seem worth it if you have to be the one to contact her all the time. She's joking right? There are plenty of girls who will want to be with you for YOU, and not be on a damn high horse with her panties up her ass.
Call it quits with this chick and find you a better girl. Goodluck! :)0