There's a guy I met about 3 months ago. He's very nice and interested in getting to know me as a person, and not just trying to get in my pants. We talk everyday but I explained to him from the very beginning if we could just be friends because I was not looking to date since I had just gotten out of a bad relationship.
He respected it at first, but now he is making to very clear that he wants us to "take it to the next level". I responded by repeating what I told him at the start of our "friendship" about not being ready to date, but he is still very flirty with me. He also has introduced me to his friends and wants me to meet his parents. I'm worried because I feel like I'm leading him on even though I never reciprocate any of the flirty behavior and I'm always very upfront about not wanting to date at the moment.
However, part of me does want to date again and I feel like I should date him because it seems like he might treat me well and I've never dated someone like him; only a**holes. But at the same time, I'm not physically attracted to him and I think that is an important factor as well. It's like I don't want to date him but it seems like I should. I don't want to seem shallow but I also want to be able to be enjoy the outside just as much as the inside.
What do you guys think?
(Btw, I once dated a guy who was not physically attractive to me AT ALL and he still ended up being an a**hole in the end-- and very jealous. So.. yeah lol)
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I'd say give it a go. Have you ever heard of the 80/20 principal when it is applied to relationships? It says that you may not always get everything you want from a partner, but the closer they have to 80 % the more you should be willing to give it a go. Romantic relationships aren't only about how you look on instagram. Unless he is repulsive to look at I say you should give him a try. He may not have that 20% but attraction is something you can work at
"Men grow on women , women don't grow on men" - https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=oRxKUXJj1WU0