There is this girl I have been friends with for a few years and I was visiting her on the weekend, and we ended having a lot to drink and ended up cuddling in bed. When I kissed her on the cheek, she shook her head and said, you'll regret this in the morning, so I backed off, but she pulled me closer and we we amorous... - But when she threw her leg around me, I told her I didn't want to let anything happen because she was so drunk. She accepted this and we cuddled a bit longer... Later on she says to me -- "You don't want a girl like me - Seriously, you don't want a girl like me... you need a nice girl...". Later on, I told her it seemed like she was protecting herself from falling in love, putting a shield up, and I recognized it, because I do it too. She acknowledged this.
She went to her bed to check some texts and I told her I needed to sleep, and she wanted me to stay with her... So I lay on the bed and held her hands, eventually falling asleep.
The following morning she tells me she can't remember much of the previous night, I recounted a few things she told me and she was horrified. - I told her that she wanted a lot of cuddling, but wasn't sure how easy it could have gone much much further.
She proceeds to tell me that (after a night of drinking) this good (male) friend of hers and her once slept together and she ended up in tears in the bathroom, and now they don't speak anymore.
There are a lot of other things, but, basically, over the last few years, and especially this weekend, she has been giving me SO MANY mixed signals, that I am left with the following questions for this community :
1. Could she possibly be interested in me, but be hesitant because she thinks that she'll be bad for me? That she's "not good enough" for me?
2. Should I tell he about what actually happened that night? An what almost happened? It may be drinking related problem and I worry about her safety.
I have missed a lot of details, but any advice/input is appreciated!
The following morning she tells me she can't remember much of the previous night, I recounted a few things she told me and she was horrified. - I did tell her that she wanted a lot of cuddling, but didn't tell her how amorous we got nor how it could have gone much much further.
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im going to give you the hard message, as this girl sounds a bit like me. If this girl really , really was into you, the words I am horrified would not be uttered after spending a night with you. Nevermind about being hurt in the past or putting up barriers to avoid being hurt, if she truly has feelings for you, she could overcome that,. I think she sees you as a friend and feels as we all do a bit lonely and wants someone close to us -she chose you as you don't pose a threat and you won't break her heart or use her for just sex. "you don't want a girl like me"- she is warning you- she will hurt you.