How can you get over someone whom you loved and really cared about no matter how much they hurt you and make you feel good at the same time?
I have been going out with friends, sometimes so busy that I do completely forget about him. But at night when my thoughts take over, I just can't handle it. All the memories good times and bad ones kreep up. And to make it worse EVER Since I saw that he is dating some good looking girl and that's all he talks about makes it even worse. Makes me think I was never good enough for him. I don't know what to do I have tried everything but the memories just won't go away. The thoughts of me not being good enough. and that I will never find someone that would care about me as much as he did or more is a killer because he really did care about me before.
Guys, is it really that easy to get over someone you went out with for 2 years and 2 weeks after you are already dating another girl and saying fuck you to your ex in the end. How does that work?
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I really feel for you as I went through this and am only just now getting back to normal after 6 months. I would like to save you some time. I broke up with my boyfriend after a year of intensity. He really cared for me, but on another side he was controlling. After a year I asked about our future and asked if we were going to move in with each other. He said it was too soon to move in together or marry. I was quite hurt because we had been through so much and I thought I proved my love for him. We carried on for a while until those words kept niggling at me and I could no longer be with someone that didn't really love me. We broke up and he said he was devastated. 4 weeks later he got a new girlfriend and refused to speak to me. After a month they took a holiday to Paris and 4 months after that he moved in with her. I thought it was just a rebound but it really isn't.
Having to watch their relationship go on so fast from strength to strength was slowly killing me. I got so depressed, I thought about suicide along with other bad things that were happening in my life. I often wondered if he ever thought about how I felt. But obviously not.
I am going to give you some advice that I had to learn the hard way. I am begging you do not torture yourself, you and your ex were not meant to be & that is it. It is not your fault. So he is with a new girl and you think she is prettier. Trust me looks have really nothing to do with it. You are a precious person. If you were horrible person, you would not be feeling anything over this break up, but because you have worn your heart on your sleeve and are willing to put your love out there you have been hurt.
Break ups happen because of incompatibility, bad timing, things that happen at the time. There is a chance he is on a rebound, but I don't want you to have a surprise like I did.
My advice : Do not think about him and make a list of all the things you can now accomplish, now you're single. There must be loads of things. When those thoughts creep in at night, have a little cry if you have to and then imagine a place you would like to visit. Keep going out with friends. Keep moving forward. He is no longer worth your time. There is a special guy out there waiting for you.3