Men or Women?
IMO men do, because they choose who they want to date. And for the most part in our society, they choose when and who they get engaged to. Yes women have the right to say no, but it's usually the men asking. Now I have heard of women proposing, but apparently it's still pretty uncommon.
Any relationship I've ever been in, it's felt like I've given it all and the guy has just chosen to leave. So I've felt pretty powerless in situations, maybe that's the problem?
I know some people would argue women do, because they choose who they get into a relationship, they choose whether they get married or not and to whom, and who they have kids with.
I'm interested to hear everyone's thoughts!
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Here are my thoughts, when did relatioships stop being about love and
start becoming about power? Last time I checked, when I man askes a woman
out. It's because he's attracted to her or he just thought she seemed nice
and wanted to take her on I date to get to know her! Also, last time I checked.
When a man proposes to a woman, it's because he loves her and realized there's no one
else he'd rather spend his life with! None of that, is based on power. It's based on
what you feel inside, men do those things because of how they feel. Or, at least that's
what I thought.
As a woman, I can't speak for all women. But, I would assume women say "yes" to
a date because she's attracted to him, or thought he seemed nice and also want
a chance to get to know him as well. When he asks her to marry him and she say's
"Yes" it's because she loves him too and can't imagine spending her life with
anyone else ! And, all of that is also based on feeling, not power. But, maybe
I'm wrong about that too!
Now, when someone say's "no" (whether it be man or woman). That's also based
on feeling and not power! Feelings are a very VERY powerful thing and it's what
compelles us, to do that stuff. You can't control what you feel, it's just how you feel.
That's why some people say "yes" and some people say "no". If it's there, it's there
and if it's not then nothing you could do would ever make it be!
See, power is the ability to know you have control over the situation and the ablity
to get away with whatever you want, without having to worry about conquences. Like, all
the billonares and celebrates who do whatever they want, whenever they want!
They know they have power and no one is going to dare stop them! That's power,
power is control and relationships and marriages are not suppose to be like that!
In my opinion, I think relationships and marriages should based more a feelings
and equality and less about who has the power to control the other!
I don't know if this is a real saying or not, but I heard once that "absolute power, corrupts
absolutely" And, if that's the case. I can see why most relations don't last, because it's
just one big power trip. And, with all those power trips, there's bound to be a power surge
and the lights will surely go out because no relationship could possibly survive one controling
the other! I know we all have the right to say "yes" or "no", but that less about power and
more about a privledge of being a human being. I do things I want to do, not things I have to do!
In relationships, it's about whether I feel it or I don't .I go by feel, but it's NEVER about power!
But, if this is how relationship are now a days, I'll just stay single. Because, I don't have the
patience for this power crap, I just don't! This is just my opinion, it's how I feel!