I know some things can be read the wrong way or scare people off and you should try to be somewhat generic to attract a wider group:
So I have a filter version (what is basic and generic) and a true version (really describes me but may be too much)
What is better? Is my true version too unique or specific? Any advice?
I am a friendly, kind, and thoughtful girl. I am laid-back and fun to be around. Family is very important to me. I also love spending time with my friends.
True: (How I would REALLY describe myself, but I am scared it's too much!)
I am a friendly, kind and thoughtful girl. I am laid-back and I love to laugh and enjoy life, but I also have a serious side, and I'm very insightful. I am somewhat philosophical, and I think a lot, but you probably wouldn't guess that right away. I also like to read and I enjoy creative writing. I'm bubbly and talkative, but I'm somewhat of an introvert and you are more likely to find me having drinks and dinner with my friends than partying.My dream career is a psychologist or therapist because I like to help people, I'm a good listener, and I am good at understanding thought and emotion. Fitness is important to me, and I exercise regularly. I love to spend time with my friends, watch TV or movies, and listen to music.
The second one is more honest, but I feel like it is too "unique"...if you couldn't tell I'm kind of an individualistic person, I feel like there are so many aspects to me that are hard to put together and are easier to understand if you meet me..compared to conveying it in writing.
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I use dating sites and would more likely respond to the second one.
The first type of profile is a common generic profile a lot of girls use. I would literally think "Oh... another generic girl who is too lazy to fill out the profile and just wants attention."
The second time is better, in my opinion is still filled with a lot of cliche terms I see on a lot of profiles. You can still keep it that way if you want. I'll point out the words I see on A LOT of girls' profiles for ya just as food for thought.
"have a serious side"
Those phrases aren't bad. Just pointing out that I see those kinds of descriptions almost every profile. So if you want to separate yourself from others you could just find synonyms to those words to get yourself away from looking like "just another profile."
If you're using OKCupid you could just throw in your career and stuff in the other portions of the profile like "What I'm doing with my life" and stuff to have it more separated.0