This guy I'm kind of seeing right now likes to keep pretty active and stay busy. And he can be really bad with texting sometimes. Like sometimes he'll respond to me instantly and then other times I know he's read the text but he doesn't respond til hours later. Meanwhile I can see that he's on Facebook mobile. Should I be concerned by this? Does that mean he's not interested in me? He says he really likes me, but he's kind of a popular guy so I know I'm not the only impotant person in his life really... It feels so sometime-y.
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LOTS of guys (most, probably) are lousy when it comes to texting. They'll do it to GET a girl, because they kind of have to, but most guys' texting will fall way off once they're together.
Guys prefer face-to-face conversations. Remember that guys don't multitask well, so in order to text, he has to stop everything else he is doing and focus on texting. If he's trying to get something done, it's SUPER annoying and frustrating to be interrupted constantly, and to have to mentally switch gears all the time. Our brains are designed to focus on a single task at a time, and work on it until it's finished, and then move on to the next thing. Being interrupted screws that up badly.
The other thing is: guys don't want to have CONVERSATIONS via text. It's fine to send a short message, or ask a question he can answer with 1-3 words, and be done. It's totally different to ask open questions or try to keep a conversation going via text when he's got other things to do. I've had to fire techs whose wives/girlfriends expected them to text constantly through the day, because the guys refused to put their phones away during work because their girl would get mad at them. I had to make it clear that it simply wasn't tolerated (not only did it interfere with work, but it was also a safety hazard). Some guys had to be fired before they understood that I was really serious.
Anyway, I strongly advise that girls massively lower their expectations when it comes to guys responding to texts. If something is REALLY important and urgent, you should CALL. Texting, unless the message is VERY brief, should be limited to non-time-sensitive or lower-priority messages, and should NEVER be used to discuss relationship issues - that should ALWAYS be done face-to-face.2