Hello, my name is Ashley. I've been single for a couple of years (or more) and I've been trying to put myself out in the dating world. I joined an online dating website but I just found out the disappointing way that most guys on there are just after sex. That's all they think about and when I say "No," then the guys won't even talk to me anymore.
I used to go after guys in real life but I am so afraid to now because of my previous rejection experiences. I tell myself "Why try you're just going to get rejected anyways."
I mean a majority of the time it does hurt me that it seems like I keep meeting dirt bags who just want to have sex... and I see all these happy couples and wish I was just like them.. kills me that I am alone.. and it's killing my spirituality... I pray everyday but I don't think that God hears my prayers.. I feel all alone and wish I had a boyfriend but like I said I keep meeting douche bags.
Am I cursed? Why do I feel so alone? Are there ANY remedies to this situation? Are there any good guys left for me?
- Thanks for reading this
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You know, it's interesting hearing a girl say this. So many guys on here and in real life tell me the same thing. Of course, some of the details are different, but the feeling of despair and isolation are the same. I'm in the same rut you are. I don't meet girls who are just after sex, of course (Haha!) but instead I find girls who just want to use me and then move on or I get outright rejected. I've tried to be a good guy, but I've found that women take advantage of me and then I look and feel like a fool afterward. It's gotten to the point where even if I have a strong feeling that a girl likes me, I won't approach because I am so tired of the pain and disappointment other girls have put me through. I feel hopelessly alone and there is nothing or no one that can help me.
You have to understand that nobody can force the people you like to like you back. You aren't alone in the pain you feel. I'd say most, if not all, are experiencing or have experienced what you are going through. Myself, my friends -- I even have a friend who never tried dating because of what he saw, and I dearly wish I had done the same -- all feel like we are totally alone. There are no remedies. However, you have to find other things in life that you enjoy and that take your mind off it. Think about yourself. Stop caring about others. Most people will only disappoint you the better you get to know them. Enjoy your own company and what you have to offer. The less you think about dating, the better you will feel. That's what's helped me and my friends in any case.2