I'm going to be 36 which means I'm almost 40.. Im a good guy who just wants a companion but I'm too afraid to talk to women cuz I know they won't like me. I hope to be married before 40. Your thoughts
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You aren't too old and at least you have taken a step in realizing that something must change. However, looking for a empathetic response on GAG is like looking for honesty in Congress. I'll give it a try. Much of what your responders said made some sense. The one thing in your question that is very telling is "... I'm too afraid to talk to women cuz I know they won't like me." Now that has to change above all else, I think. That might be a good reason to seek the help of a counselor or therapist, one who could objectively work with you on that very issue. Have care, though. I'd say roughly half of counselors and therapists are quacks. If it's not working out with them in say a month, then seek someone else.
In the responses, you mentioned that you were engaged. Doesn't this kind of contradict the idea that "they won't like me?" I'm sorry that it didn't work out, but that should be evidence that you can talk to women and you can get some sort of response. You did it before, so try to do it again.
Your weight was also mentioned in the responses. I understand you have a disability of some sort, but I know and work with people who are unable to walk at all and they are at a healthy weight and they do work out (yes, disabled people work out). They do this through diet and exercise. Google it and I'll bet you anything you could find some form of exercise and a diet that can improve your health and make you more attractive. Wouldn't it be better to at least try than not?
I couldn't even advise what to do on your approach because you don't seem to do that. A trusted and intelligent female friend might be very helpful, but you have to start approaching them. You did it before, so you can do it again.1
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