Me & my ex were dating for about 5 or 6 months. We broke up a couple times course the second time we didn't try again. Well we stopped dating in September 2013 & here it is march 2014 that were still seeing each other not dating but seeing each other
And by seeing each other were still having sex he comes to spend the night and we hold each other we still laugh together I still tell him that I love him and how much he means to me and he still says he loves me... we still have moments where we just lay & stare each other in the eyes...
I feel that there is still something there that's big & were both still holding on only thing is that he says he's at a point in his life right now where he needs to take care of school abd work (he's 22 by the way) he also says that I need to be doing the same meaning a relationship is the last thing that he's thinkin about but I see him as mine & that's it I understand him but at the same time I believe were practically In a relationship but not having a title to us bothers me
My question is should I just step back for awhile and let him take care of him and if he still feels love & like in his heart for me then try us again or should I continue to do what we've been doing... it hurts me to know we still have something but get around him and know that were not official because everytime I do I constantly ask him thousands of question about us and I know it bothers him & I def. Don't want to push him away from me & rid him of his feelings for me. What should I do in this case just stop carrying on the way we have been & maybe later pick back up from where we left off? Kind of to preserve our feelings for one another... or when were together just keep my mouth shut about us and just go with the flow?
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From a guy that did what your bf did. I told her i feel i'm not ready for a relationship. Having one demands a lot and i sensed i wasn't up for it. I felt i couldn't do it. The whole "relationship" stuff. In my case she didn't take it well. So the fact that you are here and you stick around is a big achievement. And i'd actually say you have a relationship with him. Only thing is you two agreed to stop calling it like that for a while. He wanted that "title" taken away so he wouldn't feel pressured. You hang out, have time, sleep together so it basically is a relationship. Make it clear sleeping with other people is OFF LIMITS and you don't accept that. As far as asking him "about us" all the time... Don't over do it. Do a check up from time to time but not everytime. And i'd say you should stick around. Be there and do what you are doing. It's still love0
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