I met this amazing girl in my gym she is just outright gorgeous and nice but she always had this vibe of sadness underneath.
I asked her out and she said yes, now we're dating for a month now and she opened up to me how her dad abused her and she just got out of a abusive relationship.
This is hard for me to hear since I love her a lot. I'm not sure if I should tell her so soon though. My strategy is just to be her 'rock' make her feel happy do a lot of activities and be someone she can rely on.
Do you think this way she can heal and I can rebuild her trust in men or do you think I'm doomed to be the rebound guy?
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I think if she's willing to work on herself it will work out. It sounds like you are doing the right thing, trying to be her rock and show by action that you are someone she can rely on. Just keep in mind that there's only so much YOU can do. She is going to have to put in the effort as well. She's going to have to open up about these things and try to mentally and emotionally heal. Whether that's with you or a therapist or a best friend, she needs to be working on it.
I don't know the extent of her abuse or how "damaged" she is, but she should get therapy just to have a safe place to talk and learn that she can still have a better future, none of that was her fault, not all people are going to mistreat her etc...
Also, you don't have to say the words necessarily if its not the time. You can just continue to show her by actions. Do sweet things for her, continue to bet here for her and so on. You can also just let her know, "I really care about you and I want you to know I am here for you..." things like that.
I hope things go well for you two (:1