Maybe I have intimacy issues, but I find it really hard to kiss someone on the first date, especially if I had met them online. Most recently, I think I missed out a second date because of it.
Any tips on how to reduce my nerves? Sure, a few drinks...but I have to drive home, so drinking more to feel comfortable isn't really an option.
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Here's the thing: if you tell a guy at the beginning of the date that this is an issue for you, and that even if the date goes really well, you can't help but feel a little weird about kissing on the first date, most guys will be fine with it.
What is NOT fine is if you let them believe that a kiss is going to happen, and then you shut it down at the last minute, because THAT feels like rejection.
As long as you aren't taking it off the table EVER, then it's not a problem. Just let the guy know, UP FRONT, how you feel and what his expectations should be, and you'll be fine with any reasonable "rule" you want to make.0