My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. We get along great with one exception, we fight over me hanging out with other guys. I have always had a lot of guy friends, probably 70% of my closest friends are male. Whenever I'm hanging out with one of my guy friends my boyfriend goes nuts. He calls my phone 10+ times and questions me when I get home or if I call him about exactly what I was doing and what was said and if anything happened etc.. Its ridiculous. I love this guy but he's killing our relationship. I have never cheated on him, and he has no reason to not trust me. Let me know your thoughts am I over reacting by dumping him? Is this something I should cope with because I love him?
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He probably has some self esteem issues. In his heart he is probably thinking something along the lines of 'Why is she dating me?' followed by 'Eventually she is going to realize one of those guys would be better for her and dump me.' It is hard to know what to do here, because no amount of reassurance will do it if he does not think he measures up.
Or he might have been in a situation much like this where the girl cheated, and that baggage is being dumped on you... if so you need to find out and call him on it.
And come to think of it, he might be a control freak trying to establish dominance over your life by determining who you can be friends with. Think about your other interactions with him and see if there is a controlling pattern, then kick him to the curb if you want your independance.
Good luck and stay safe.0