I met a guy online, we emailed for 2 months, texted for 3 months and then met about 2 months ago. He's made me dinner a few times, had me stay over like 4-5 days in a row etc but I'm not sure how he feels about me. He said he wasn't just looking for a piece of ass but wouldn't turn it down. He also told me before we met I was very cute. We've had sex a few times and it's so good but weve never gone out on an actual date and so I kinda consider us friends with benefits But I'm starting to like him more not like ready for a relationship more just the little things. I like hearing him talk about his plants, snakes and things he's interested in, I like watching him cook. I want to send him a text that says " I don't want to put any pressure on us or make things awkward, I consider us to be friends with benefits at the moment. When we first started talking you said you weren't looking for a piece of ass but wouldn't turn it down, I'm just wondering how you feel about things and if you'd want a relationship in the future with me." I don't want to rush things cause I'm no where close to ready but if he doesn't want a relationship with me later on I don't want to develop these feelings for him and I'll make them stop. Should I send the text or just be patient and let things play out how they will. I kinda feel like he likes me some because he keeps inviting me over, like I've never asked to come over so it's always him but I'm still unsure if he wants a relationship with me or just a friends with benefits type thing and nothing more.
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I found out, no matter if it's Online Or Off, that many of today's toms are sporadic, unpredictable, and yes----non committal, as well. And if they are not ready, Nor Sure about getting into a Real Relationship, they "indirectly" let you know. I see the signs here.
However, by taking things slow with joe, it seems he may be coming around to be More than "friends with benefits," which could mean a potential partnership down the road.
No, don't say anything, let things go for now. If he feels pressured, pushed or even pinned down, he may "disappear," and there goes, not only "watching him cook," but everything else you have been hearing about him to make you start to like him. Play it cool for now.
The more he "invites you over," and spends time with you, the more he will get to know you, and perhaps Want more than a-------dinner companion in the future.
However, there is no guarantee in life but death and taxes, and I can't promise that this "comfort at home" deal may or may not grow cozier, but I do believe that if you play your cards right with him, and be More of a challenge, you will have him eating out of your hand, and perhaps you both Could become two birds of a feather. Guys like a chase, and the apple at the top of the tree is always the juiciest, as you know.
Feel it out for now. See how things progress. I Do realize the More that you are with him, you just can't turn your feelings off like a lite switch. But that's the chance you take when you meet someone who isn't prepared to build a nest, and of course it's your choice in the future if you would want to sit and be patient or----fly south and find someone with a more "serious sweet pot."