Your mother is a saint!
She is 💗 I value how much she sacrificed and kept trying for me everyday, she’s a beautiful woman
You are a saint too honestly I don't think my six year old would go home and behave either.
Oh that only lasted until I was 13, then I turned into a total bitch and made life hard for her - again confirming her sainthood 😉 You can do this. It’s not ideal, but you set your priorities , work put a plan for those, how much you need as a base and anything else that comes your way is a bonus. Accept any help people offer you that don’t feel like it has a return clause you can’t meet. It will get easier as she gets older
Thank you so much
Oh wow you are an inspiration. What kinda skills should I have to be productive on etsy? I'm an alright writer. I can draw. But honestly baking is like my specialty.
It has to be something handmade there are all kinds of work on etsy, drawers , paintera, bakers , soap makers, its endless you can look up my group on fb , send me a pm ill semd ot to u. i actually run this group to help people suceed on etsy.. gl
Awesome thank you!!
Rent is 675Car is 460Utilities for all three is usually 150-200Car insurance 123School payments are 157and 115 each monthGroceries gas etc.How do you do it and save that much
Sorry for the delay in reply. But I save my tax money I get every year!
I honestly don’t understand why some people feel the need to bring others down. Her question was addressed to single parents. Are you a single parent? You know nothing about her life except what’s been stated in the question. What gives you the right to judge her? No one cares if you date women with kids or not. Being on the damaged goods table is one of the most small minded ignorant statements I’m read. Good luck finding a women as ignorant as you’ve limited yourself to.
Thanks pink1980! But to burst your stupid bubble I chose not I have an abortion after I was RAPED!!! I did not choose the father of my child but I chose to allow her to live instead of terminating a pregnancy that I never consented to the creation of in the first damn place. So why don't you take your women hating bullshit somewhere else because it's not welcome here.
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That's awesome. Unfortunately moving back home isn't an option for my daughter and I my father killed himself 3years ago and my mother and her new husband are "tired"and don't want to "take that step backwards."
I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately yea parts of life is drowning.
I don't receive support from the other parent or the government.
What the hell are you talking about? I work two jobs. I don't have an ex and I damn sure don't seek alimony out of anyone. In order to get alimony that would require having been married.
Oh that is sad, b'coz in our country it wouldn't require to be married. Yeah your one is harder.
There is no ex anyway hence the no child support 😑
Dam, who's the daddy then? Does he completely give a dam about his kids?
My daughter is the product of rape.
Omg my condolence, you're the best mum in the world. In our country ther could be a possibility to alimony the guy.
Oh wow. It's amazing the differences in each country.
Yeah it's kinda fair if you give birth to a baby to charge the dad for 25% of his income (in case he's greedy) regardless the marriage status. In our country it's so painful, sometimes the rich dads go to compromise with the mum like to pay 10k$ per month, even more in case the 25% is much more lol.
Unfortunately I don't currently qualify for housing
Unfortunately in divorce situations it really screws the bread winner. How come they didn't split the time 50/50and get you out of the child support at least.
I am to far away for shared custody and even at 50/50 its a difference of incomes so I would be paying the same... I fought for 50/50
Ouch. Yea in divorce situations they try to provide the children with the "level of living" that they are used to. I'm sorry you're too far to do the 50/50. Maybe eventually you could move closer.
My daughter is the product of rape. And there is government assistance if you're "poor enough" by their standards.
Very sorry to hear that. I suspect most (but not all) single parents in the UK where I am are getting some form of support. Mighty hard without it.
I imagine you're probably right
Cutting back classes extends the time it takes to finish. The longer it takes to finish the larger the financial strain.
The parenting part is the easy part honestly. Your mom sounds like a strong woman.
Thank you! I'm trying, I work myself to death I just feel like there's gotta be something else gotta be something I'm missing
Do you have family around? Otherwise you have to either get government assistance, or find non profit organizations that help people in your similar situation, or bank on your academic career that requires patience, or u gotta use your mouth-piece, rub some elbows with people lobby for yourself kinda like branding... people will really resonate with your story/situation trust me, n some of them they have loads of money or other ways to help looking to be philanthropic or have a genuine big heart, crowdfunding (gofundme, etc), also while lobbying for yourself you might run into someone who has an influence to get you a better job, etc... you gotta be a hustler n a researcher on this front tho ma dear
With two jobs I don't qualify for government assistance. I tried that unfortunately county told me to "have one more kid then we can help." I've tried GoFundMe but it hasn't gone far.
Thanks. I've made it work for six years but I was working my life away in a factory. They downsized last may and it just seems like nothing I do is enough financially anymore
Well find a job u can that meets ur needs use the app glassdoor it alows u to submit a resume n helps u find a job that suits ur experience. But if u need to talk im always around if u need to vent
The struggle I come across is jobs willing to work around nursing school schedule.
That can be tough maybe look for a indpendant child care provider
Childcare isn't the issue lol it's employers not willing to work around my school schedule. Clinicals and stuff.
Well see if u can get a far enough notice so u can request those times off
My two jobs work around the schedule. I was explaining the struggle behind trying to find another job. Clinicals make the days I can work very limited.
Well u could find a guy to help u out. I know most lived w family 2 become nurses
My dad blew his brains out 3 years ago and living with my mother is not an option at this point. Her and her new husband are "tired" and don't want to take that "step backwards."
Then find a good man to b there 4 u
I feel like finding a guy to help out is using someone. I don't want to use anyone.
How does one find a man anyway
U find someone u like that likes u n go from there
I don't ever even go anywhere to be able to meet people
Well u seem like a good woman so im sure anyone would b lucky to get u
Ur welcome n message me if u like b nice to keep talking
They have to catch the man in order to hit the man for child support.
Not to mention the state in which I live would then grant him visitation with my daughter and that is not ok.
What are you talking about?
Sorry,😂😂 , it's wrong answer
I answered another question, sorry
It's all good
thank you, Its very difficult to live with one parent, because their partnership provides moral and material incentives for the their children of course
I'd have to meet someone first and I never meet people.
Government assistance is very hard to qualify for. You have to be in extremely poverty to qualify. I work two jobs my income is too high to qualify. Most single parents income is too high to qualify. The percentage of populous on assistance is minuscule compared to the whole of the United states.
Eventually! My daughter just turned 6. Unfortunately we're staring at the risk of losing our house.
Try to do housing maybe? Talk to someone im sure they will be happy to help out
Working the two jobs I don't currently qualify. If I quit one I could get housing but then I couldn't afford to pay my school payments it's I the worst catch twenty two
Yes thats right OMG , im so sorry
I read your reply to one of the opinions , i am so proud and my respect for you is soo high regardless what youve been through.
Thank you. I am doing the best I can. I just wish I could feel like I'm enough.
My mom had me when she was 18, there will be bumps ahead but you'll get through them.
My daughter is the product of rape
That's not what marriage is about. And I've never been one to depend on someone else. Besides I never have time to meet guys with how much I work/ school.
it is not what i mean. sharing the life with someone is what i meant.
Hard to do. I work so much and when I don't work I have class so I never meet men.
the man will come suddenly without arrangement
Not an option
Why not? Is he dead or in jail?
I’m so very sorry
No need for apologies that's the hand life delt me I'm just trying to figure out how people make this work financially all alone.
None of those are options and not nearly as many single parents as the stigma implies are actually recieving these benefits.
You're not at under eighteen unless you've been legally emancipated. Your parents are maybe. You can receive child support if you're a mother over the age of sixteen under that everything goes to your parents as you're legally to young. Issuance for you and the child maybe. But government assistance won't give housing to a minor parent or not without legal emancipation even then its a fight beyond that you also can't get your own food stamps welfare etc without being a minimum of eighteen and on your own. If you're under 21 and living with a parent even if you are a parent you are considered one household and can not receive food stamps.
Oh well I live with my mom she a single mom too and she applied for food stamps for both of us and we received them and my baby daddy is 19 he pays me 1800 every month for child sopurt
Your on your mother's food stamps she receives benefits for you and your child. But just for future reference your child support is too high for you to receive benefits for you and your child.
The cut off for insurance, food stamps, and housing for a two person household is like 1760.
Which equates to one full time 40hr a week 11 dollar an hour job.
Dam :/ by ex boyfriend works in construction he makes 20 something
Yup that's why I don't receive any help because I work two jobs and these two jobs raise my income well above the cut off but not enough to actually make it. This is why it really pisses me off when people act like all single mothers are on assistance and everyone is milking the system blah blah. Seriously the cut off is so much lower then an actual livable wage that the comments are sickening.
Dam :/ so when i turn 18 im loose the government help i am receiving?
You're not recieving the help your mother is, you're on her case file because you're a minor. And as soon as you're too old for your mother to claim (which is 21 as long as you live in her house), or when you turn eighteen and move out of her house. You will not be able to receive government assistance other then health insurance for your child IF your employer does not provide insurance. If your employer provides insurance you can't even receive that. Since you won't qualify for assistance you will have to work. 1800 a month will not support a household of two comfortably.
If you read the information along with the question you'd be aware that I work two jobs as well as go to college so gtfo with that shit