If someones being rude, do you get rude in return?

[DizzyDesii]

And does it depend on if they're the same gender as you? At work they want us to killem with kindness. I’m startin to say fck that 😂 Outside of work, you get what you give. And I’m not going to ASK you to stop, i’m going to TELL YOU not to take your shitty day out on me
#FeelFreeToList #YouGetWhatYouGive

You get what you give

Vote A

Killem with kindness instead

Vote B

Ask them is everything okay and to not take it out on me

Vote C

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[Paulychicago10]

Its like reverse psychology. Turn the statement back on them. I can't like give a specific example to you on yours. This one time I went to a restaurant that I frequent. I pulled out my laptop. Nearly brand new because I had to write out a receipt for some work I was going to so for them. The regional manager goes "that laptop looks cheap". I say, "yep, it was free!" With a smirk. "The VA bought it for me so I could go back to school". Never heard a peep from him again that day. Just turn it to where they would feel like sh! t if they want to go off on you.
Like today this wasn't intended for me, but as I was walking into Walmart. Ours has these stupid things that buzz at you if you don't walk through the checkout isle. Yet I do anyways. Besides the point. Nice couple, little older than me, started to walk out where you walk in at. They see the gate, and the Walmart greeter person just starts being rude to them and all she says to them is "self checkout!" The couple returns by saying, "we already checked out and paid". The greeter lady just keeps getting louder "SELF CHECKOUT!!" she says it a few more times. That point I wanted to say something to the lady. The couple was Hispanic decent and I dont think they fully understood what was going on. I honestly wanted to jump in and be like, "how bout we lower the voice and actually explain to them what you want to happen instead of being a fat tard yelling SELF CHECKOUT!". I get it, people are pissed off a lot, but don't be rude to the other people because your day sucks.

So, in retrospect, kill them with kindness, but make sure you turn it on them so they feel like shit for being a dick.

[Mehzmeh]

I get rude back. But you would never tell. I don't yell or raise my voice. I do talk to them and make them feel like a child. Lol. I have had people come back and say, how did you yell at me with out yelling at me. And make me feel guilty at the same time. Lol

[ohshee]

It depends on who it is where we are whst its about most friends never are rude so thsts easy if it's a brother or sister I smile and walk away if it's a girl I say wait and depending. what it is or why I will explain my self calm , now if its a dude depending on why I mean if he's being a jerk or some thing and I do dome thing to prove thst WHST he's doing is wrong sure I will except thst and tell him why I did what I did. Most of the time I would have done it because I see something thst is going to get bad so I put myself in the middle to calm it down but if some won is out of CONTROL rude I will calmly walk up to then get about 12 inches away and in a very low quite key I will tell them I in so many words they better back off calm down and the reason why other thst that it's not a big deal who people want to be seen or heard as but if there's kids around or if someone is picking on someone because the person is scared and can't yell back I I don't have a problem getting myself in volved

[Lynx122]

In the past yes but now I've become way more relaxed. If someone gets angry or attacks me for no reason I feel like I already have the upper hand because they're all emotional. Maybe I'll just smile and ignore them or laugh if they're being extra ridiculous or I'll just set them straight by pointing out their immaturity, there's a lot of different ways to handle it. If someone is in a position of power and does that then I do get pissed because I can't stand people like that but I won't go overboard.

[strawberrylipstick]

i get people telling me to "go kill yourself fuckin emo" or "what are you a fag?" (im gonna keep the word uncensored because yes i am lol) but honestly i'll either call em out for being so insecure that they have to insult other people, or if they decide to attack me for being lgbtq i'll just mention that "you seem pretty upset. you know letting some other guy control your emotions like this is kinda gay" XD if neither of those work, i'll egg em on and start being annoying saying things like "yeah keep going we can both get off on this." and shit like that. but hey if you're nice to me then i'll be nice to you lmao.

[Lanabear119]

It’s a mix of being rude back to just being calm. I’m actually a pretty chill person so I don’t really give a fuck what people say or think about me. So I probably wouldn’t be rude back. But if it was a female, I have less patience. I would most likely ignore her while secretly imagining her lit on fire and asking for water to be poured on her while me myself am drinking the water with no care in the world.

*It was a joke females, don’t take it too personal*

And for males... I really don’t care.

[Jake1415]

I think one time is enough, but if they keep acting that way to you... Then they are asking for it. I know my dad recently had one person act rude to him 3 times and he said if they had done it a 4th, then he would have acted rude back. So, if whoever you are dealing with acts like this person, then feel free to be rude back because they were just asking for your wrath. But if it is just a one time thing, do make the third choice, they may just be having a bad day and not realize how they are acting or realize what is coming out...

[hahahmm]

I will stick to the rules I grew up with: be nice to customers 100% of the time unless they curse you out or physically assault you. If they curse you out you can ignore them & your manager should back you up. If they attack you then you can beat them senseless. You still might lose your job but you'll have your dignity and you did the world a favor by teaching manners

[heatherlou]

At work - kill them with kindness, that's the name of the game I'm afraid.

Outside of work - it really depends on a situation. Mostly I'll just walk away. I dont have time for it, and it's not my job to fix you. If it's someone I'm close to, or a situation I'm invested in, try talk to them, get them to realise their tone, and ask them to not use it with me.

[SjE78]

I tend to respond in kind, but only after exhausting my patience... however long that takes depends on the person's attitude and whether I am feeling in the right kind of mood...
lets just say, i hope those obnoxious people dont catch me on days where i am either
A) already pissed off
B) not feeling too well
C) already put up with their crap for a long while
D) haven't witnessed them treating someone else like shit...

[flamiE]

At first, I don’t. I ask if everything’s alright, and if they continue to be rude i’d just continue trying to calm them down and eventually ask them to not take out whatever is causing their attitude on me. If they continue after my multiple tries I’ll just snap on them 😂😂😂

[AdithyaR]

I've basically learnt a way to stay calm and polite but still calling out their behaviour.
It took time to be able to maintain that composure but it's way better that way since I don't let my emotions get the better of me.
Plus it's fun to watch the other person get more triggered when I continue to stay calm even after they're rude.

[JosyJosy]

If it's someone I care a bit about, no, unless the person's known for it, then yes. If it's a stranger I'll be rude back. Maybe a stupid thing to do, but it comes naturally for me. I always think "will you be annoyed and frustrated if I give you the same treatment, you hypocrit?"

[SCDivinitySoul]

I tend to just put up with it, if it's online I'll just block them, if it's in person I'll handle them only for so long, I'll either walk away or if I am at work I'll just report the person as I should. I really don't deal with too many people anymore just because I rarely see anyone anywhere anymore besides stores.

[jahaims]

Depends on the situation. If they won't listen to logic or reason I will sometimes resort to pointing out their ignorance or flaws in thinking. Other situations I wi kill them with kindness and overly agree with them and that often results in them realizing they were acting foolish

[Jjpayne]

I think sometimes the rude reaction is natural as it is more than likely a judgement so it already makes you bitter. I say overall, the natural way is to be rude. But there is another way that actually does two things. If you are kind to them back, 1. It makes them look like an ass, 2. It might actually inspire them to be less rude in the future, planting a seed. In my mind that's a win win. Only it's not a natural thing to do for any of us, including myself 😅

[Hans222]

I'm rather the B sort of person, especially if I suspect it's more about stress than the intention to be rude. That often works very well.
Even if someone had the intention to be rude, if you stay dead calm they usually block. They were seeking conflict and you're not answering their request 😫

[Dinosaursandanime65]

If having this look is considered rude then sure. I can’t yell or scream so, not much I can do... in those terms. Hm hm hmmmmm, little gorls... I try to use my eyes to send the message.

[legalboxers]

@DizzyDesii turn around is fair play. Especially on here with the keyboard warriors.

Also.. That video was shot in my mall in 1999. So the video has a special place in my heart. It was my jam back in the day. So when I watch it I got a little tear in my eye and smile.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I try not to stoop to their level, but I slip sometimes, cuz I'm human 🤷🏼‍♀️ and you get sick of people and their BS... but usually I'll get sarcastic, overly polite 🙂 or just say have good day and convo over...

[Lliam]

I often do, yes. Especially on-line. If they're rude to me, they're not my friend and I don't care about burning them. In contrast, I welcome differences of opinion if a person can express their point respectfully.

[misanthropistkev]

I like to give people their space because if your nice to someone and they know they were being rude or mean they’ll feel bad about it if they were just having a bad day I don’t take it personal but I remove myself from the situation before the get a chance to make me upset too because then we’re gonna have a problem although I rarely get angry or am rude