
- Anonymous20 dI don't think so. It really depends on how they were taught and the reasons for the parents choosing to home-school them. I think that people outside of the home-school community make a lot of false assumptions about it, for example that we just keep the kids locked indoors all day and never have them socialise with other kids, keeping them completely sheltered. That's retarded, and that's not what most of us do.
My children are home-schooled, and I wouldn't say that they're less mature at all. We speak a lot with others who home-school and meet up with those who are like-minded so that our children can mix, play and learn with each other.
One of the main reasons I hear from a lot of parents is that either their child was bullied at school or they're afraid that they might get bullied. These are the parents who really do tend to coddle their children, and those children do tend to act younger than they actually are.
We don't mix with those parents and our kids don't mix with their kids, because that's not what we're doing with ours. I think that that's what causes the damage. We're raising capable, strong men. We see our job as parents as preparing them for the adult world, of course making it fun at the same time otherwise they wouldn't be interested in learning.
Our boys actually do things which some would say are quite advanced for their age. They're only 4 and 6, but for example I will teach them how to use tools safely. Anything else which is practical I'll teach them and have them join in and they love it, anything DIY, any decorating, or maybe we'll make things out of wood. If I'm fixing anything on my car they'll come watch. I also teach them Boxing, Muay Thai and Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu as I learned and fought from an early age. They know more man shit than a lot of grown men do already. As for things like math and English, they're way ahead for their age groups.
We tend to have them mix with kids of various ages, some of their own age and some older kids. The idea that kids should mix with kids of the same age group is a modern thing, it only happens in schools. I actually think that this can make children immature, whereas having them mix with older kids makes them want to be more mature to fit in with the older kids. They're interacting with people all the time, they're confident.
Look at most millenials today, do they seem mature to you? I just turned 30, I had my first kid at 23. I see a lot of people my age or close saying that they aren't ready to have kids yet because they can barely take care of themselves. Or annoyingly they say "I'm no good at adulting" or something like that. They went to school and they never grew up.
The only way in which I can see that they're "immature" is in that they aren't exposed to certain things we see in the current culture as being completely toxic, and they won't be until the time is right, once they're old enough to understand what's actually going on. @lanadelrey25 makes a very good point about kids being influenced by stupid immature kids at school.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- @Desconhecida Are there many families that homeschool their children in your country? Here... I'm not sure I would say less mature, but maybe not as informed and maybe more socially naive. I'm sure there are exceptions.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
No, our current president was thinking about approving the choice of kids to study at home -- I just wonder if by doing that, we are not taking away certain essential social and independent experiences from our children.
Right I agree that those families who do this might be taking away certain experiences. One argument that families use, is that "bad things can happen at school". Well, bad things can happen in life. Those experiences are what make us stronger. One thing I remember from school was hearing "drug talk". From the sound of it, I didn't want to get into drugs because I didn't like hearing about it. So that is a good thing! I was exposed to it but I didn't go that path.
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Yeah I agree that children are likely to NOT pick up certain aspects of socialization if they are homeschooled. I'm sure there are exceptions and there are people on this website who claim that they were homeschooled well. But overall I think most kids would "miss out" on a lot of things if they were homeschooled. But durning this pandemic, a lot of families don't have much choice right now until we get through this.
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- I think that they are at a higher risk of lowered social skill, so to some capacity there is a higher possibility that they are less mature. They might not get the peer socialization they need in the most essential time frame to learn about friendships, groups, working with others, and all sorts of situations and conflicts a young school-aged child may need to learn through/with those their own age.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
- Um no never crossed my mind, in fact the opposite now that I think of it. I was homeschooled for almost my whole life and I greatly benefited from it in some areas. When in a high school, it's a mixing pot for all kinds of stupid, immature people who are also "popular". Go figure.1|10|0Is this still revelant?
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418- Nope, in fact, I've met some pretty mature people that have been homeschooled. Although there is a difference between knowing how to be silly and being mature. Because I'm sure homeschooled people might be more inclined to be more hopeful and optimistic because highschool teaches you some hard lessons and takes innocence and patience from you. Being at home preserves that1|00|0
- not quite they are monitor by the homeschooler and in the presence of their parents so yeah there behavior is good their manners are well and they are mature so yeah sorry if I was rude bt when you get angry and lose control of the situation then you might look less mature sorry if I was rude0|00|0
- I would say less mature, just possibly less socially acclimated with their peers. But if they participate in other youth programs like sports or various clubs and activities, I’d imagine that can help with socialization too.1|00|1
- It depends on how they are home schooled. I know home schooled children who are definitely more mature than most children. I also know a couple of kids who are home schooled, and are less mature than average.1|00|0
- Socially, they must be since the chance for interaction is so much less0|00|0
- Anonymous19 dYes, I've met several people in University who were homeschooled and all of them are very weird.0|00|0
- I would think they are more mature and better educated. The ones I have known were.1|10|0
- In some ways, yes. In other ways, they are a lot more advanced than their counterparts. Such as in intelligence and life skills and personal responsibility.1|00|0
- Nope, I've only talked to 1 person that is homeschool and she seems more mature than some people my age and definitely more mature than people her age.2|00|0
- I think slightly less adjusted...
But my friend, i got say is self taught on just about anyting and legitimately knows what he is doing. From pc's to cooking0|00|1 - I think more mature because they deal with adults (parents) more than with children.1|00|0
- probably socially awkward and immature. you need to deal with other people in order to learn to "Deal" with other people0|01|1
- Not less mature, but they lack the social skills of those who weren't0|01|1
- Anonymous19 dThere are problems with home schooling, like social skills. But the publics school system is so f*cked up and the kids come out far worse than when they went in.1|00|0
- Anonymous20 dNo, I never thought that0|00|0
- No, not at all. Many see more mature, actually.1|10|0
After all, they are not influenced as much by immature peers and more by adults. The downside is that social skills are sometimes a bit delayed.
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