Why must we gatekeep women from Heavy Metal?

Question

Yeah yeah I get it. You see me at a Meshuggah show and you think I should be down the street at the half empty Katy Perry show. But no, I'm not here with a metalhead boyfriend. I'm not here on a dare. I like metal.

Some of my girlfriends have this problem as well. We're always quizzed on what we listen to so these triggered guys can check if we like "real metal." And no matter what we say we're considered fake fans.

Why wouldn't you be excited that more types of people are excited about the music you love? Why would you actively try to tell someone they don't get it or that they're fake fans? The fuck?

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Just for those who are curious, here's my 5 go-to bands: Haken, Rainbow, Opeth, Dream Theater, Iron Maiden

Answer 1

drummerdude25 | 1.5K opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

It’s the dumbest thing in the world, isn’t it?

I started picking up on the “club/elitist” mentality in the music scene quite a while ago now and how it’s become an identity-based type of thing, and it’s like, for all these people that want “their music” to be more popular, or at least the scene you’re apart of, they have to be welcoming of new demographics of people. It just seems pretty obvious to me... like I’m not the kind of person that shoo’s people away for “not fitting the mold” you know? Nor do I ever want to be that way. It is just so wack to me. It really starts with the immediate question, “if in their shoes, how would you feel?” A lot of different scenes have these kinds of issues.

And for me personally, getting away from your “norm” and exploring different styles of music, in the face of what a particular group or scene’s opinion of what is cool and what isn’t, it’s led me to some extremely cool and thought-provoking experiences and memories... which is something that I’m pretty sure a lot of these “real music fan, tough guy/big boy, scene gatekeeper” metal snobs couldn’t say the same for... they’re stuck in their ways, aren’t open to anything else, miss out on a lot of other great experiences as a result, and then ultimately wonder why metal isn’t more popular.

Inclusivity is a big deal. Stepping beyond these toxic “gatekeeper” mentalities... why can’t people be made to feel more included? Like “idk, sounds like a personal problem, bro...” 🤷‍♂️ lol

Answer 2

nachosaresexy

Explorer

It's basically just a stereotype, because a lot of girls at metal shows are just along for the ride or whatever. But obviously doesn't mean there aren't legit female fans.

Meshuggah's guitar work pretty much melts my brain. I dunno how they do it. Opeth is amazing, love how they vary their style. When they work with Steven Wilson to produce their stuff it's gd magic.

I'm sure you know of him but in case you don't already, check out devin townsend's stuff.

Answer 3

MORPHEUS_12 | 361 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

I am a metal head and I have never gotten any sort of questions. Probably because I am always with my husband. My husband's musical tastes are more 80s glam rock. Whereas I listen to metal. My favorites are Lamb of God, Megadeth, Ministry, Sepultura & Fuckin Slayer. I am even working on a battle jacket.

Answer 4

LeFtUoNreD

Xper 3

Those kinda guys actually do that to anyone they doesn’t know enough about the genre to enjoy their music which isn’t even theirs. Which doesn’t make sense in itself. It’s because it’s probably the one cool thing they thinks make them cool.

Answer 5

mk200195 | 53 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Xper 7

This notion that women can't get into heavy metal is laughably false, there are plenty of women who absolutely fucking love heavy metal and there are plenty of women actually in the metal scene who are insanely badass and talented.

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Adam1978 | 124 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Yoda

It's all garbage music to my ear, which gender that pollute their environment with it shouldn't matter. They should listen to something less stressful and more relaxing in my opinion.

LeFtUoNreD

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You’d think you’d be born In 98 talking like that

Answer 7

LeFtUoNreD

You’d think you’d be born In 98 talking like that

Answer 8

ChocoBrowny

Xper 5

I dont even like metal, but if a girl does cool. Why should it matter to me how she feels about it?

Answer 9

GAGSucksBalls1

Xper 7

Different people consider different bands, "fake"

like, for example, i don't think emo bands, are metal. they're punk

but, on the other hand, some people, might not consider the bands i like, to be metal either.. it's all in personal taste

and screw people who don't like you for you. that just means they're not right for you. MOVE ON

Answer 10

loveslongnails | 657 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

Just another variation on a boys club. Childish, isn't it?

Answer 11

Danny_dan92 | 165 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

I think it’s because metal and pop. Are the only two genres of music that in a way, have genders.

Pop has feminine tones and vibes

Where as metal is loud and aggressive, kind of like how men are.

LeFtUoNreD

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Lol lol No little man dan it’s because their assholes
Danny_dan92

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Huh?

Answer 12

LeFtUoNreD

Lol lol No little man dan it’s because their assholes

Answer 13

Danny_dan92

Huh?

Answer 14

TheFlak38 | 841 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

first off this is a myth. second off men will always be better when it comes to music, movies, games and comic books. deal with it.

Answer 15

Anonymous

Why do you care. Listen to the music and move on with life.

LeFtUoNreD

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It’s prolly kinda annoying when people are quizzing you along the way
Opinion Owner

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@LeFtUoNreD this isn't a gender thing. It's stupid fan fanatics. I joined a Taylor Swift FB Fan page when I was 16 and was called a fake fan becuase I didn't know her date of birth and even got kicked out the group. Did that stop me from being a Taylor Swift fan, no it didn't.
LeFtUoNreD

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Haha no if you look down in another reply I stated that that they do this to anyone including girls for whatever preconceived notion they have about you. However this spills over into their video games also where I do believe gender makes them doubt us..

Answer 16

LeFtUoNreD

It’s prolly kinda annoying when people are quizzing you along the way

Answer 17

Opinion Owner

@LeFtUoNreD this isn't a gender thing. It's stupid fan fanatics. I joined a Taylor Swift FB Fan page when I was 16 and was called a fake fan becuase I didn't know her date of birth and even got kicked out the group. Did that stop me from being a Taylor Swift fan, no it didn't.

Answer 18

LeFtUoNreD

Haha no if you look down in another reply I stated that that they do this to anyone including girls for whatever preconceived notion they have about you. However this spills over into their video games also where I do believe gender makes them doubt us..

Answer 19

Lynx122 | 357 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Guru

I support your liking of metal music :D

Answer 20

AydenHazor

Xper 7

Screw any dude who thinks girls don't like metal

Answer 21

jasco | 94 opinions shared on Entertainment & Arts topic.

Yoda

I don't mind metal but i prefer rock

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