Why do other lives bother you so much? There are millions of births, miscarriages and abortions every day around the world. It's not their fault that you got an STI which caused your own infertility. Nor is it their fault that you have such a high maternal instinct and maybe they don't? What they do with their bodies is up to them. You can hate it as much as you want, but you're only channelling your frustrations of infertility onto people you don't even know. Maybe you should got for some counselling.
So you had chamaydia and it scared causing infertility. Did you and your boyfriend check after the antibiotics to make sure the infection was cleared? Have you had any hormone testing to check for common things that cause infertility like PCOS? A common disease no one talks about that effects around 10% of women in this day and age. You can be skinny and have periods with it as well. Essentially your insulin gets thrown off which throws your reproductive system off. Also, maybe you shouldn't judge people that have had an abortion. You wouldn't want people to judge you for having caught an std in the past would you?
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it wasn't chamaydia, don't even assume that... i'm not judging the abortion part its self because if there are certain reasons to get one, not just because " Oh I had sex with this Bitc* and I'm irresponsible and I don't want this bitc* having my baby" Which inspired this mytake that type I am talking about... How about you? you try so hard to have a baby and then something happens you can't for whatever reason. And then just imagine seeing something like that how tf would you feel? just saying.
It would have to be chlamydia or gonorrhea because you and your partner both had to be treated which shows it was an std. But yes I am one of the 10% of women that do have PCOS so a natural side effect of that is difficulty in conception.
I've never been tested for PCOS I kind of mentioned it over with my doctor because I had heard its not fun. I can only imagine.. If you really want a baby and are willing to try there is stuff you can take, join a few trying to get pregnant groups on facebook get some feedback :)
Just because you can't conceive doesn't mean you'll never have a kid - there's adoption. A child doesn't need to be your blood in order for it to be your family. And there's a lot of kids out there in desperate need of a very loving home that actually WANT a child.
There is always hope and I'm sure u r tired of hearing it but thinking positive is what makes us overcome things in life but putting negativity bc of somebody else... that needs to stop and even though I know where u come from there is no need for it... just to clarify I am 26 and not 17.. put in wrong info
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is there any way you can change that info to fix that?
Like you, it's one of those things that absolutely drive me crazy.
I want to get pregnant more than anything else in the world and there are girls who have unprotected sex once, get pregnant and then have an abortion.
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My heart hurts for you reading this Take. Don't give up trying, have faith and I really hope you can conceive one day.
Don't be surprised if you get some negative comments for this Take.
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I won't be because there has been some... I usually just read a little then skip over if I feel its going to be bad! Some people are so rude and inconsiderate.. I am sure they feel that way about this take but its not meant to do that unless you are pregnant and you abort just because you don't want the baby... its heartwrenching
I was just talking about this to this woman couple days ago. Someone close to her can't have babies and she has been trying for years, actually two women have had this same problem. Yet you have others aborting like its nothing. Good mytake, sorry to hear your story.
Let's see if I can get pregnant and feel the horrible pain of giving birth.
Lol jk
I don't know if I'm fertile or not and honestly I don't want to know until it's time for me to settle down. My parents are going to be old as hell if I get pregnant.
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Anonymous
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Im kind of in the same boat. I have a disease which causes hormone imbalances and one of the many symptoms which comes along with it is possible infertility. Just the thought that i might be infertile depresses me and really gets me down. Im 19 now and i found out that i might be infertile when i was 16 already.
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It's sad. I see women that I know would make wonderful mothers who have been denied the ability to have a child. Then I see women who can't be bothered with their children get pregnant again and again. I know a drug addict that has 4 beautiful kids. 3 different fathers. The fathers of the younger two are raising them. The father of the older two has passed. Those poor kids fend for themselves. The 15 year old girl is always asking people if she can stay with them. It's not fair.
have you considered invitro fertilisation? im so sorry to hear this and it really does suck, im really scared about not being able to have a kid one day and i really hope that you can somehow have a child.
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IVF is expensive, IUI is I think half the cost... I don't really know if I can take them sticking a needle there! I couldn't see it before I don't like needles
and thank you :) it does suck I have managed but its something like you don't see every day of reason what started this post... i guess expect the unexpected
Everyone has their reasons... I wouldn't say they are undeserving though,,, a little harsh
Every women is deserving of a child You'll get it and if not you can always adopt a deserving child or use a surrogate...
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I wasn't say they were undeserving its, just funny how it works people that SHOULDN''T get pregnant they do... just its bad because the person was having casual sex and he managed to get 2 knocked up... that's what bugs me the most and then abortion on top of it. People like me struggle for so long right so when you hear something like that its shattering
Did you know that women are only fertile for about 12 hours every month, and that the human body is actively doing everything it can to prevent pregnancy? The uterus is a hostile environment. Pregnancy puts immense stress on your body.
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Anonymous
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I am sorry to hear about this. My wife and I have been going through something similar. She has irregular periods and ever specialist we have gone to seems to not know what is going on. We have wanted kids for over 3 years now. Try to remain positive the best you can because the stress can definitely get to you.
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Please dont take your frustration on others. at the end life doesn't give you things because you are good. Luck have a big role. I got an illness called PTSD because of bullying. And if I was thinking like you I would say there are others who dont deserve a good health why me? See how bad it sounds
I'm sorry that you have been unable to conceive, but no one owes it to you to carry their baby to term.
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LOL! It's true. One of the little ironies of life. You spend all this time in your teens and early 20s, desperately trying to have hot sex as frequently as possible and NOT get pregnant, only then to grow up into your 30s having all kinds of unprotected sex and NOT get pregnant. And to top it all off, as soon as someone cheats, BAM!--the girl is knocked up!
Survival of the fit enough is how natural selection works. Not survival of the fittest. Evolution doesn't care about money or if you're "ready" for a child.
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Why do other lives bother you so much? There are millions of births, miscarriages and abortions every day around the world. It's not their fault that you got an STI which caused your own infertility. Nor is it their fault that you have such a high maternal instinct and maybe they don't? What they do with their bodies is up to them.
You can hate it as much as you want, but you're only channelling your frustrations of infertility onto people you don't even know.
Maybe you should got for some counselling.
So you had chamaydia and it scared causing infertility. Did you and your boyfriend check after the antibiotics to make sure the infection was cleared? Have you had any hormone testing to check for common things that cause infertility like PCOS? A common disease no one talks about that effects around 10% of women in this day and age. You can be skinny and have periods with it as well. Essentially your insulin gets thrown off which throws your reproductive system off. Also, maybe you shouldn't judge people that have had an abortion. You wouldn't want people to judge you for having caught an std in the past would you?
it wasn't chamaydia, don't even assume that... i'm not judging the abortion part its self because if there are certain reasons to get one, not just because " Oh I had sex with this Bitc* and I'm irresponsible and I don't want this bitc* having my baby" Which inspired this mytake that type I am talking about... How about you? you try so hard to have a baby and then something happens you can't for whatever reason. And then just imagine seeing something like that how tf would you feel? just saying.
It would have to be chlamydia or gonorrhea because you and your partner both had to be treated which shows it was an std. But yes I am one of the 10% of women that do have PCOS so a natural side effect of that is difficulty in conception.
PCOS is one of the most leading causes of infertility and it is common
I've never been tested for PCOS I kind of mentioned it over with my doctor because I had heard its not fun. I can only imagine.. If you really want a baby and are willing to try there is stuff you can take, join a few trying to get pregnant groups on facebook get some feedback :)
Just because you can't conceive doesn't mean you'll never have a kid - there's adoption. A child doesn't need to be your blood in order for it to be your family. And there's a lot of kids out there in desperate need of a very loving home that actually WANT a child.
How dare you say a mother has no right to her body?
How dare you decide what she does with her baby and her body?
How dare you state that she is undeserving of the baby?
And if you have problems in conception, then don't have a child. There are too many humans on the world now currently.
And here ladies and gents, is an example of 30 yo hormones overriding rationality.
How dare you presume another woman is undeserving...
There is always hope and I'm sure u r tired of hearing it but thinking positive is what makes us overcome things in life but putting negativity bc of somebody else... that needs to stop and even though I know where u come from there is no need for it... just to clarify I am 26 and not 17.. put in wrong info
is there any way you can change that info to fix that?
Like you, it's one of those things that absolutely drive me crazy.
I want to get pregnant more than anything else in the world and there are girls who have unprotected sex once, get pregnant and then have an abortion.
My heart hurts for you reading this Take. Don't give up trying, have faith and I really hope you can conceive one day.
Don't be surprised if you get some negative comments for this Take.
I won't be because there has been some... I usually just read a little then skip over if I feel its going to be bad! Some people are so rude and inconsiderate.. I am sure they feel that way about this take but its not meant to do that unless you are pregnant and you abort just because you don't want the baby... its heartwrenching
I was just talking about this to this woman couple days ago. Someone close to her can't have babies and she has been trying for years, actually two women have had this same problem. Yet you have others aborting like its nothing. Good mytake, sorry to hear your story.
I should do a test called...
Let's see if I can get pregnant and feel the horrible pain of giving birth.
Lol jk
I don't know if I'm fertile or not and honestly I don't want to know until it's time for me to settle down. My parents are going to be old as hell if I get pregnant.
Im kind of in the same boat. I have a disease which causes hormone imbalances and one of the many symptoms which comes along with it is possible infertility. Just the thought that i might be infertile depresses me and really gets me down. Im 19 now and i found out that i might be infertile when i was 16 already.
It's sad. I see women that I know would make wonderful mothers who have been denied the ability to have a child. Then I see women who can't be bothered with their children get pregnant again and again. I know a drug addict that has 4 beautiful kids. 3 different fathers. The fathers of the younger two are raising them. The father of the older two has passed. Those poor kids fend for themselves. The 15 year old girl is always asking people if she can stay with them. It's not fair.
have you considered invitro fertilisation?
im so sorry to hear this and it really does suck, im really scared about not being able to have a kid one day and i really hope that you can somehow have a child.
IVF is expensive, IUI is I think half the cost... I don't really know if I can take them sticking a needle there! I couldn't see it before I don't like needles
and thank you :) it does suck I have managed but its something like you don't see every day of reason what started this post... i guess expect the unexpected
Everyone has their reasons... I wouldn't say they are undeserving though,,, a little harsh
Every women is deserving of a child
You'll get it and if not you can always adopt a deserving child or use a surrogate...
I wasn't say they were undeserving its, just funny how it works people that SHOULDN''T get pregnant they do... just its bad because the person was having casual sex and he managed to get 2 knocked up... that's what bugs me the most and then abortion on top of it. People like me struggle for so long right so when you hear something like that its shattering
Did you know that women are only fertile for about 12 hours every month, and that the human body is actively doing everything it can to prevent pregnancy? The uterus is a hostile environment. Pregnancy puts immense stress on your body.
I am sorry to hear about this. My wife and I have been going through something similar. She has irregular periods and ever specialist we have gone to seems to not know what is going on. We have wanted kids for over 3 years now. Try to remain positive the best you can because the stress can definitely get to you.
Please dont take your frustration on others. at the end life doesn't give you things because you are good. Luck have a big role. I got an illness called PTSD because of bullying. And if I was thinking like you I would say there are others who dont deserve a good health why me? See how bad it sounds
I'm sorry that you have been unable to conceive, but no one owes it to you to carry their baby to term.
LOL! It's true. One of the little ironies of life. You spend all this time in your teens and early 20s, desperately trying to have hot sex as frequently as possible and NOT get pregnant, only then to grow up into your 30s having all kinds of unprotected sex and NOT get pregnant. And to top it all off, as soon as someone cheats, BAM!--the girl is knocked up!
Survival of the fit enough is how natural selection works. Not survival of the fittest. Evolution doesn't care about money or if you're "ready" for a child.