Friends come and go, we all know this. If you’re like I used to be you probably put a lot of effort into your friendships. If you borrow something you return it in at least as good as, and often times better than when you received it. You buy little gifts for your friends, if you’re out, about and happen to see some shit that’s humorous or something they would like, favorite candy etc you pick it up for them. You might house sit if they go out of town, look after the pets make sure they’re place doesn’t get burglarized, for free, hell what are friends for? You get the bill when you guys go out half the time or more, what’s a few bones between friends. It ain’t no thing.
I don’t have many friends these days because somewhere some how a rift was driven because of one thing or another. I lost a friend because of an argument I had with his brother that was the result of a different argument with a mutual female friend I dated. where I maintain that I was right in my actions. I lost another one because of a disagreement with his mom, again no remorse. I was right. I know I did what I could to salvage them, these things were irreconcilable, diplomatic resolution had failed. These were deep friendships of several years, military friends, dudes I graduated police academy with, guys I should be so lucky to take a bullet for. You have all the friends your heart could desire till you’re really down on your luck. Try owing your best friend a couple hundred dollars for a couple months and see how long it lasts. I had that same situation, a guy clipped the bumper of my buddy’s car I was driving while mine was Being shipped in from overseas, I couldn’t come up with the deductible money because I was between jobs. Friends are mercurial contraptions.
I dont have friends now because I choose to not make new ones. Sometimes i I look back and can’t believe a couple hundred bucks tore down my best friendship, shit, I’ve picked up that in drink tabs. Why go through that again?
Living alone without friends or family made me realize how much I don’t need them and how to be a better friend should I choose to have some again. If my car breaks I get the shit towed, to a shop and pay to get it fixed. If something happens and money gets tight, I’ll eat ramen till I can get my shit right again. I had hernia surgery a few months back and I walked home from the hospital instead of getting a ride. If you’ve had that surgery you know how hard that would be. Under no circumstances do I accept favors from friends and I expect my friends to never ask me for anything.
Now don’t sell yourself short, ask yourself if someone is in it for the perks, cause you fix their Harley for a case of bud light or get them tickets to the big game with the big team you both think is big shit. Walk from those, even if you get something in return.
You may think you have great friends but let me tell you. I’ve lived to in three countries, been to 30 States, lived in many counties and countless cities, who knows how many people I’ve met. “Friends” are a dime a dozen, women a nickel. You may only meet one real friend in your life IF you’re lucky and that guy will still fuck your wife (givin she’s worth a bang) if given the chance. Don’t believe me? Give him the chance. Friends will forget your kindness, trust me. Friends make for more dangerous enemies.
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