My daughter is flirting with me, help?

[Anonymous]

My preteen daughter is flirting with me. At first I thought she was just being affectionate, but now the attentions are verging on uncomfortable. I want to remain close with her, especially as she grows up. (We can talk about everything.) But her behaviors are approaching a line that cannot be crossed. How do I maintain closeness with her while nipping this in the bud.

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My mother's opinion is that most little girls go through a phase where they are in "love" with their dads. This is actually where they look for the example of the type of man they want to some day marry. I just have to be the best example I can.

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And yes, I need to find a way to approach this where I don't damage her self esteem. I'm thinking of an indirect approach. Like yesterday she attempted to crawl into my lap as she did as a toddler. I politely informed her that she is to old for this.

[melimeg]

You could act like you think she's just being silly. Say, "What are you doing, you goofball? You're not 3 anymore. Sit over there. You're too big to sit in my lap now, sweetie. People will think it's weird. Sorry." Just some suggestions. An 11yo that I tutor was like this with my fiance. I told her it was inappropriate and that she needed to be more lady like. She ignored me, so I stopped tutoring her at the house. I was the same way at her age. Maybe you can get her mother to talk to her about this stage in her development.

[Jahnnavi]

Well talk to your wife about this. Or you can talk directly to your daughter about this. But pls be careful because she might get hurt. And encourage her to talk and hang out with guys of her age. In this way she will be flirting with guys of her age. Hope this helps.

[zombiebabe]

make her understand that you are only her dad..and that she should respect you

[Anonymous]

In my humble opinion I think that the mother should approach her on this and have her say from her opinion on what she has observed. She could be crushed by you telling her that her feelings are wrong. It takes another woman to explain this to her while protecting her from thje shame, guilt and anger that could occur from trying to put boundaries on her affections. Best of luck man this is not an easy one.

[pseudomagic]

Ohhh mista sexy man thinkin every female that gives you attention is automatically flirting...well sir that's your daughter, if you think she is flirting then you should reevaluate your own emotions towards her. This sounds like a precursor statement to carnal knowledge with a minor.

[222fallguy2]

People like you are what is wrong with the world. Instead of giving some decent advice or just observing you have to be an antagonistic fool. What do you get out of being like this?

[pseudomagic]

Dude first of all if you don't like my opinion kindly sit there and shut the fuck up. People like you only perpetuate hypocrisy. Eat a bag of dick and fuck off you liberal chump.

[222fallguy2]

I rest my case. Your eloquent words spoke volumes. Hope you get better somehow.

[pseudomagic]

Indeed. As I said kindly sit there and shut the fuck up. If you don't like the use of my vernacular, still kindly sit there and shut the fuck up. you presume your pseudo self entitlements actually holds value to people other than yourself. You maintain nor will you ever achieve any echelon over me.

[ReallyHoly]

I think it’s free granted you gotta make sure they actually understand what they trying to do and they are very well informed don’t wanna go to jail later in life cause they saying you abused them gotta sign a paper contract non disclosure agreements and such but mainly if they educated and they clearly want some love no need to hate on that I do know that this is not the point of the post so for the advice your looking for just stay close and if it escalates to something you are uncomfortable with shut it down in a nice way or don’t like I recommend but we all know I am in the wrong here.

[ElovieMe]

Tell her what specific things she's doing or saying are not appropriate and why they aren't appropriate. Be assertive and reassuring that you love her but teach her that there are different kinds of love.

[crazygirl102001]

Your her father, just tell her that she's making you feel uncomfortable and that she needs to stop. It's easy. Maybe this is why she's flirting with you, because she feels like she can take advantage of you easily.

[george021780]

Id just get it over with

[Anonymous]

Wow...that's ridiculous.Yes, maybe she is too affectionate and a daddy girl, but I never encounter that a daughter flirting with her dad.

[Anonymous]

Your DAUGHTER is flirting with you? DOn't you think it's just your imagination/fantasy lol

[rick55555]

Many girls like to tease their dads. Many girls find it safe to learn sex from their dad. My ex wife learned about sex from her dad.

[george021780]

So. eone probably already messed with her and she is coming after you to make sure its ok even though its not but ya know

[Anonymous]

If you're confused, imagine how they feel! Open honest communication is key, and that it's just a no-go.

[Maosource]

COuld you come up with some examples?

[DerrickRicketts93]

This sounds like something I would see on a p*rn

[Transginger]

Me and my mother were "affectionate".

[george021780]

well

[MyUsernameRules]

What the hell?

[Anonymous]

I smell a troll.

[george021780]

I smell a bowl